Do you hate your job, even though you need the paycheck? Think carefully before just sticking with it: The impacts of putting up with a job you hate can be very real. You'll pay in stress, your life-view will be changed, your self-confidence will erode, your relationships will suffer and you won't deliver your actual potential. (DumbLittleMan.com)
Costs of Hating Your Job
1. You'll Pay in Stress
If you hate your job, then chances are you're already stressed by the situation. Stress includes not feeling like you're in control of what's happening, not being able to make choices about what happens and feeling powerless about what's happening. It's important to be brutally frank with yourself about what's happening, and you need to be prepared to make some tough choices.
2. Your View of Your Life Will Suffer
If you stay in a job you don't like, you're forcing yourself into a role that doesn't work for you in some important ways. The more time you spend in that role, the more you come to see it as the way things are. You slowly forget about what can happen and who you are outside of that role. Always keep your strengths, talents and values close, and always recognize that you have positive choices you can make.
3. Your Self-Confidence Will Take a Battering
If you're spending time in a job you hate, the message you're effectively giving yourself is, "I can't do anything else," "I'm nothing special" or "I don't deserve anything better than this." Don't allow your confidence to shrink and atrophy through inaction. Even though it can be scary as hell, trust yourself to make decisions and trust that you can deal with whatever happens next -- that's real confidence.
4. Your Relationships Will Suffer
When you're stressed, frustrated, upset or angry, it's a good bet that it's a partner, friend or family member who you'll snap at, be short with or not let fully into what's happening. Be frank with yourself first of all, and then be aware of how your situation is leaking out into your behavior and affecting your relationships. Keep in mind that you value your relationships and have that positive intention in mind when you're with them. Talk about where you are when it's appropriate to, and always remember to be their friend too.
5. You Won't Deliver on Your Capability
If you're running the very real risk of damaging your confidence, self-esteem, relationships and options by sticking at a job you hate, you obviously won't be delivering on your true capability. If you had a choice (and you do), how would you like to think or feel about your work? How would it be if you could find a career that works for you, rather than the other way around? Go where you find a pull or some energy; go where you feel a sense of fun or excitement, even if it looks scary.
Friday, August 22, 2008
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Can I see your ID?
UM's Shalala Not Signing On To Lower Drinking Age
Parents, Students Decidedly Split On The Idea
Click here to see which presidents support the initiative
Read the official statement
(CBS4) ― More than one hundred university presidents, including Duke University, the University of Maryland, and Syracuse University, have signed a petition they believe may spark a movement to reduce the drinking age from 21-years-old to 18-years-old.
Many college students welcome the debate, but there has been mixed reactions to the proposal, including stiff opposition from groups like Mothers Against Drunk Drivers.
The movement is called the Amethyst initiative. The word amethyst, the group says, "is derived from the ancient Greek words meaning "not" (a-) and "intoxicated" (methustos)."
Supporters believe that 21 isn't working as a minimum drinking age because it fosters binge drinking off college campuses.
"The conclusion of these presidents is that it's important to find a way to take the underground drinking that is forced by the 21 and over drinking age, and find a way to bring it back up above ground," said Dennis O'Shea of John Hopkins University.
Students interviewed had mixed feelings, some saying the drinking minimum age is fine and some saying that decriminalizing drinking at an early age will only avoid problems.
Locally, the president of Johnson and Wales's all 4 campuses signed the initiative.
"I am advocating that it is time to take a different course of action, as it is clear the current measures are not addressing the problem," said John Bowen, President of Johnson & Wales University.
But University of Miami President Donna Shalala says she won't be supporting the initiative.
Shalala told the Associated Press, "To shift it back down to the high schools makes no sense at all."
While states might be able to change the drinking age none have since 1984. According to the Amethyst Initiative, that was the year Congress passed the National Minimum Drinking Age Act. The bill threatened any state lowering the drinking age to under 21 with losing 10 percent of the state's federal highway money.
The United States has the highest drinking age in the world, along with Indonesia and Mongolia. In some foreign countries, the drinking age is as low as 16-years-old.
Parents, Students Decidedly Split On The Idea
Click here to see which presidents support the initiative
Read the official statement
(CBS4) ― More than one hundred university presidents, including Duke University, the University of Maryland, and Syracuse University, have signed a petition they believe may spark a movement to reduce the drinking age from 21-years-old to 18-years-old.
Many college students welcome the debate, but there has been mixed reactions to the proposal, including stiff opposition from groups like Mothers Against Drunk Drivers.
The movement is called the Amethyst initiative. The word amethyst, the group says, "is derived from the ancient Greek words meaning "not" (a-) and "intoxicated" (methustos)."
Supporters believe that 21 isn't working as a minimum drinking age because it fosters binge drinking off college campuses.
"The conclusion of these presidents is that it's important to find a way to take the underground drinking that is forced by the 21 and over drinking age, and find a way to bring it back up above ground," said Dennis O'Shea of John Hopkins University.
Students interviewed had mixed feelings, some saying the drinking minimum age is fine and some saying that decriminalizing drinking at an early age will only avoid problems.
Locally, the president of Johnson and Wales's all 4 campuses signed the initiative.
"I am advocating that it is time to take a different course of action, as it is clear the current measures are not addressing the problem," said John Bowen, President of Johnson & Wales University.
But University of Miami President Donna Shalala says she won't be supporting the initiative.
Shalala told the Associated Press, "To shift it back down to the high schools makes no sense at all."
While states might be able to change the drinking age none have since 1984. According to the Amethyst Initiative, that was the year Congress passed the National Minimum Drinking Age Act. The bill threatened any state lowering the drinking age to under 21 with losing 10 percent of the state's federal highway money.
The United States has the highest drinking age in the world, along with Indonesia and Mongolia. In some foreign countries, the drinking age is as low as 16-years-old.
Sanjaya-ize yourself
Wow, you look just like Sanjaya! Depending on how you feel about the "American Idol" wannabe from a couple of seasons back, that is a high compliment or a low insult. Either way, you can try to see what his various hairdos will look like on your face - - or the face of anyone else you have digitized images of. Check out the site sanjaya-ize.com.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Adoption
Becoming an adoptive parent can be a great experience for both the parent and the child. Children who are unable to go back to their homes are in need of a permanent family with a safe and loving home.
Do you want to be a parent? Learn more about adoption.
What makes a good adopter?
There are no hard and fast rules. All sorts of children need all sorts of families.
In general you need to;
like children
have time and space in your life
be adaptable
be willing to learn
be able to ask and accept support
be able to accept and value the child's past experiences
Parenting a child who has been through separation and loss requires more than just love alone. Early childhood experiences may have left the child deeply unsettled, expressing their hurt and confusion through their behaviour - which could range from angry and aggressive to withdrawn and sensitive. Gaining their trust may take time and adopters need to be prepared to accept that they may face some very challenging behaviour.
Do you want to be a parent? Learn more about adoption.
What makes a good adopter?
There are no hard and fast rules. All sorts of children need all sorts of families.
In general you need to;
like children
have time and space in your life
be adaptable
be willing to learn
be able to ask and accept support
be able to accept and value the child's past experiences
Parenting a child who has been through separation and loss requires more than just love alone. Early childhood experiences may have left the child deeply unsettled, expressing their hurt and confusion through their behaviour - which could range from angry and aggressive to withdrawn and sensitive. Gaining their trust may take time and adopters need to be prepared to accept that they may face some very challenging behaviour.
Not having kids?
More Women Than Ever Are Childless, Census Finds
By KATIE ZEZIMA
Women are waiting longer to have children, and more women than ever are choosing not to have children at all, according to a new Census Bureau report.
Twenty percent of women ages 40 to 44 have no children, double the level of 30 years ago, the report said; and women in that age bracket who do have children have fewer than ever — an average of 1.9 children, compared with the mean average of 3.1 children in 1976.
“A lot of women are not having any children,” said Jane Lawler Dye, a Census Bureau researcher who did the report, which looked at women of childbearing age in 2006. “It used to be sort of expected that there was a phase of life where you had children, and a lot of women aren’t doing that now,” Ms. Dye said.
Women with advanced degrees are more likely to be childless, the study found. Of women 40 to 44 with graduate or professional degrees, 27 percent are childless, compared with 18 percent of women who did not continue their education beyond high school, the data show.
The numbers are consistent with a 2006 report Ms. Dye issued on the same subject. While year-by-year change is slow, Ms. Dye said, the data show that women of the baby boom generation are continuing to transform the American family.
Hispanic women are the only group bucking the trends found in the study, averaging 2.3 children each by their 40s. The number of children a Hispanic woman has decreases sharply, however, depending on how many generations her family has lived in the United States, the data show.
One in five new mothers in 2006 were foreign-born, the study found, with California having the highest number of foreign-born new mothers.
Of all the women who had children in 2006, nearly 60 percent worked, with the highest numbers of working mothers in the Midwest. That may be explained by another census study, which found that, for children under 5, the Midwest has more child care available than any other region. Researchers said the numbers seemed to be consistent with other demographic trends, including the rising age of women marrying and having children for the first time, as well as women with more education having fewer children later in life.
“Clearly women have competing alternatives for the use of their time, with the labor market and employment being one and delayed marriage, which has been another trend,” said Suzanne Bianchi, chairwoman of the sociology department at the University of Maryland. “The interesting question is, has it stopped? Is this it, or will we see even higher rates of childlessness among future generations?”
Of women who gave birth in 2006, 36 percent were separated, widowed, divorced or never married. Five percent were living with a partner.
The study also shows sharp geographic differences among children who were born into poverty in 2006. Nearly every Southern state had more children born into poverty than the national average of 25 percent.
By KATIE ZEZIMA
Women are waiting longer to have children, and more women than ever are choosing not to have children at all, according to a new Census Bureau report.
Twenty percent of women ages 40 to 44 have no children, double the level of 30 years ago, the report said; and women in that age bracket who do have children have fewer than ever — an average of 1.9 children, compared with the mean average of 3.1 children in 1976.
“A lot of women are not having any children,” said Jane Lawler Dye, a Census Bureau researcher who did the report, which looked at women of childbearing age in 2006. “It used to be sort of expected that there was a phase of life where you had children, and a lot of women aren’t doing that now,” Ms. Dye said.
Women with advanced degrees are more likely to be childless, the study found. Of women 40 to 44 with graduate or professional degrees, 27 percent are childless, compared with 18 percent of women who did not continue their education beyond high school, the data show.
The numbers are consistent with a 2006 report Ms. Dye issued on the same subject. While year-by-year change is slow, Ms. Dye said, the data show that women of the baby boom generation are continuing to transform the American family.
Hispanic women are the only group bucking the trends found in the study, averaging 2.3 children each by their 40s. The number of children a Hispanic woman has decreases sharply, however, depending on how many generations her family has lived in the United States, the data show.
One in five new mothers in 2006 were foreign-born, the study found, with California having the highest number of foreign-born new mothers.
Of all the women who had children in 2006, nearly 60 percent worked, with the highest numbers of working mothers in the Midwest. That may be explained by another census study, which found that, for children under 5, the Midwest has more child care available than any other region. Researchers said the numbers seemed to be consistent with other demographic trends, including the rising age of women marrying and having children for the first time, as well as women with more education having fewer children later in life.
“Clearly women have competing alternatives for the use of their time, with the labor market and employment being one and delayed marriage, which has been another trend,” said Suzanne Bianchi, chairwoman of the sociology department at the University of Maryland. “The interesting question is, has it stopped? Is this it, or will we see even higher rates of childlessness among future generations?”
Of women who gave birth in 2006, 36 percent were separated, widowed, divorced or never married. Five percent were living with a partner.
The study also shows sharp geographic differences among children who were born into poverty in 2006. Nearly every Southern state had more children born into poverty than the national average of 25 percent.
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Mold?
Basic Mold Cleanup
The key to mold control is moisture control. It is important to dry water damaged areas and items within 24-48 hours to prevent mold growth. If mold is a problem in your home, clean up the mold and get rid of the excess water or moisture. Fix leaky plumbing or other sources of water. Wash mold off hard surfaces with detergent and water, and dry completely. Absorbent materials (such as ceiling tiles & carpet) that become moldy may have to be replaced.
Ten Things You Should Know About Mold
Potential health effects and symptoms associated with mold exposures include allergic reactions, asthma, and other respiratory complaints.
There is no practical way to eliminate all mold and mold spores in the indoor environment; the way to control indoor mold growth is to control moisture.
If mold is a problem in your home or school, you must clean up the mold and eliminate sources of moisture.
Fix the source of the water problem or leak to prevent mold growth.
Reduce indoor humidity (to 30-60% ) to decrease mold growth by: venting bathrooms, dryers, and other moisture-generating sources to the outside; using air conditioners and de-humidifiers; increasing ventilation; and using exhaust fans whenever cooking, dishwashing, and cleaning.
Clean and dry any damp or wet building materials and furnishings within 24-48 hours to prevent mold growth.
Clean mold off hard surfaces with water and detergent, and dry completely. Absorbent materials such as ceiling tiles, that are moldy, may need to be replaced.
Prevent condensation: Reduce the potential for condensation on cold surfaces (i.e., windows, piping, exterior walls, roof, or floors) by adding insulation.
In areas where there is a perpetual moisture problem, do not install carpeting (i.e., by drinking fountains, by classroom sinks, or on concrete floors with leaks or frequent condensation).
Molds can be found almost anywhere; they can grow on virtually any substance, providing moisture is present. There are molds that can grow on wood, paper, carpet, and foods.
The key to mold control is moisture control. It is important to dry water damaged areas and items within 24-48 hours to prevent mold growth. If mold is a problem in your home, clean up the mold and get rid of the excess water or moisture. Fix leaky plumbing or other sources of water. Wash mold off hard surfaces with detergent and water, and dry completely. Absorbent materials (such as ceiling tiles & carpet) that become moldy may have to be replaced.
Ten Things You Should Know About Mold
Potential health effects and symptoms associated with mold exposures include allergic reactions, asthma, and other respiratory complaints.
There is no practical way to eliminate all mold and mold spores in the indoor environment; the way to control indoor mold growth is to control moisture.
If mold is a problem in your home or school, you must clean up the mold and eliminate sources of moisture.
Fix the source of the water problem or leak to prevent mold growth.
Reduce indoor humidity (to 30-60% ) to decrease mold growth by: venting bathrooms, dryers, and other moisture-generating sources to the outside; using air conditioners and de-humidifiers; increasing ventilation; and using exhaust fans whenever cooking, dishwashing, and cleaning.
Clean and dry any damp or wet building materials and furnishings within 24-48 hours to prevent mold growth.
Clean mold off hard surfaces with water and detergent, and dry completely. Absorbent materials such as ceiling tiles, that are moldy, may need to be replaced.
Prevent condensation: Reduce the potential for condensation on cold surfaces (i.e., windows, piping, exterior walls, roof, or floors) by adding insulation.
In areas where there is a perpetual moisture problem, do not install carpeting (i.e., by drinking fountains, by classroom sinks, or on concrete floors with leaks or frequent condensation).
Molds can be found almost anywhere; they can grow on virtually any substance, providing moisture is present. There are molds that can grow on wood, paper, carpet, and foods.
Keep kids safe
Before letting the kids frolic outdoors, make sure it's safe; downed wires, flood waters, tree limbs and other debris can pose serious dangers.
Hurricanes and Tropical storms like other natural disasters and traumatic events, affect people in different ways. Life history, personality, age and a person’s experiences during and after a storm all play a role in shaping a person’s response
to a hurricane. Because some people will be more affected than others, reactions to a storm may differ greatly from individual to individual.
For many children and adults, a distressing storm can bring about strong feelings and mixed emotions. As time passes, their feelings about the storm may change. This is normal for those who experience a natural disaster or other distressing event. Keep in mind that there will be days and times when you will feel better than others.
Hurricanes and Tropical storms like other natural disasters and traumatic events, affect people in different ways. Life history, personality, age and a person’s experiences during and after a storm all play a role in shaping a person’s response
to a hurricane. Because some people will be more affected than others, reactions to a storm may differ greatly from individual to individual.
For many children and adults, a distressing storm can bring about strong feelings and mixed emotions. As time passes, their feelings about the storm may change. This is normal for those who experience a natural disaster or other distressing event. Keep in mind that there will be days and times when you will feel better than others.
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