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  • Friday, January 25, 2008

    Leave more than a will

    THINGS TO PASS ON TO YOUR CHILDREN

    (Men's Health)


    A lucky number. Long before Jordan sanctified it, number 23 was lucky just because Dad said it was. He'd look for it everywhere. Forty years later, his grandchildren fill the lane on the break wearing the number he decided was theirs. Memories accrete around specific things.
    About $3,000. An inheritance cuts your kids' ambition in half, robs them of the satisfaction of making their own way, and keeps them from lessons worth learning. So you spend it. And leave them just a little.
    A team to love. It's a durable pleasure, best passed from father to child.
    A will. And prearrange a really, really, really inexpensive funeral, too. Rule: Money is best spent on people who are alive.
    A dented wheelbarrow. Associate yourself with stupid donkey work, as in moving this stuff that's here, over there.
    A fragment of inspiring verse. Memorized, so they'll always have it when they need it.
    Stories of your screwups. In the interest of less pedestal, more human, be sure they've heard tell of your greatest misses.
    Enthusiasm for two movies: one stupid, one stirring. Say, Caddyshack and Braveheart.
    A tattered road map. An old-fashioned, service-station map of a region you've traveled a lot with the family. It should have a few words scribbled on it, a couple of routes highlighted in yellow. Some of the crease lines should be torn from wear.
    A baseless prejudice in favor of a particular make of car. Everybody knows that [fill in name of car manufacturer here] makes the best cars on the road. Period. End of story.
    A family catchphrase. A brief yelp that captures your take on life and can invoke your spirit long after you're dead.
    U.S. savings bonds. They seem the very symbol of hope.

    Jeff Martin bought a time capsule for his daughters. Find out more information.

    Or you can always make your own.

    Work stress

    WORK-RELATED STRESS RAISES RISK OF HEART DISEASE: A new study provides more evidence that work-related stress can raise the risk of heart disease. The long-running study involving more than 10,000 British civil servants found that people who were chronically stressed, meaning they were determined to be under severe pressure, had a 68 percent higher risk of developing heart disease, with the link strongest among people under 50.

    Epidemiologist Tarani Chandola said that both biological changes and behavior are likely responsible. Stressed workers had lowered heart variability, which is a sign of a poorly-functioning weak heart, and higher-than-normal levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Too much cortisol in the blood stream can damage blood vessels and the heart. On the behavioral side, stressed workers are more likely to eat unhealthy food, smoke, drink and not exercise, all of which are linked to heart disease.

    Track your teen driver

    A new product is taking the worry out of watching you kid get behind the wheel. Discrete Wireless is a GPS vehicle tracking system installed into the dashboard of a car that sends information on the car's whereabouts directly back to the owner.

    It's meant for companies sending out service fleets, but has found a large clientele in worried parents wanting to keep tabs on their teens.

    But it's not just parents trying to keep watch on their loved ones. They get jilted wives and husbands trying to buy one after someone didn't come home. The company tries to talk them out of it. They also screen for stalkers.

    Thursday, January 24, 2008

    Ladies, be safe

    Because of recent abductions in daylight hours, refresh yourself of these things to do in an emergency situation...This is for you, and for you to share with your bist friend, sister, wife, your children, everyone you know. It never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

    1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body.
    If you are close enough to use it, do!

    2. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM.
    Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

    3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

    4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS!)
    The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go.
    AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

    5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
    A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor ,
    and in the back seat B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars. C.) Look at the car
    parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side.. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a Guard/Policeman to walk you back out.
    IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

    6. ALWAYS take the elevator Instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

    7. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic:
    STOP It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

    8. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late
    and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that
    they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

    Slumber party pranks

    Is your daughter having a slumber party? I remember these tricks from when I was a young girl back in Missouri.

    Getting Buggy
    Freeze fake bugs in ice and plop them in your guests’ drinks.

    Bed Wetter
    The old, tried-and-true “stick someone’s hand in warm water and see if they wet the bed” trick.

    The Big Freeze-Out
    Old standby: Bra in the freezer, the smaller the cup size, the more embarrassment in the morning.

    Gotta Hand It to You
    While someone’s sound asleep, put something messy on their hand (such as whipped cream or honey) and then tickle their nose to see what happens. Be sure to have a camera ready.


    Colorful Night
    Be careful with this one—it could mess up sheets. Sprinkle some Kool-Aid or similar powdered drink in the bed. As your “friend” tosses and turns and sweats in the night, the powder will get wet and sticky. What a gross awakening!


    Sweet dreams girls!

    Figure out guys

    Four Things That Guys Wish Women Knew
    Here are four things that guys wish women knew about them. This comes from Shaunti Feldhahn, who interviewed over a thousand men for her book: For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men.

    · We’re insecure. Basically, we’re afraid we’re not cutting it in life – at work - AND in our role as a husband. The fix? Regular support and encouragement from our significant other. Not just “You look great” flattery. We’re talking about the genuine article – like, “Thanks for listening when I needed to vent yesterday” or “Man, you make me laugh!” The more props we men get at home, the more secure and confident we become in ALL areas of our life.
    · We feel the burden of being the provider. It doesn’t matter how much or little a man makes, or whether his wife makes more. We feel we’re EXPECTED to take care of our family and that expectation can make us feel stressed, because it’s been hard-wired into us over centuries. So, ladies, say something like: “Thanks for cleaning out the gutters. I couldn’t have done that on my own.” That way, he’ll know you feel taken care of physically and emotionally – even if he’s NOT taking care of you with his paycheck.
    · What else do men wish women knew? That we enjoy romance – but don’t think we have the skills to pull it off. The fix: Redefine what romance looks like. For example, say your husband asks you to go with him to the hardware store. To you, it may feel like you’re just running errands together, but HE may look at it as a great opportunity for some quality couples’ time together. So, try to find the romance in everyday occurrences – and suggest spontaneous dates. Maybe you can go for a coffee date after the Home Depot run.
    · The #1 thing over 1-thousand men surveyed wish women knew: How much we love our wives. We genuinely appreciate the companionship, the kindness, the laughter, the nurturing, and the cooking. Everything you bring to the table. We just aren’t very good at TELLING you about our feelings.

    Wednesday, January 23, 2008

    Money and your honey

    5 tips to help discuss money with your honey

    Learn how to stop fighting and better communicate about financial issues
    By Stacey Tisdale


    Use these five helpful tips to stop fighting about money:

    1. Lose the notion of right and wrong
    There are no right and wrong beliefs about money, just different attitudes and beliefs, and they all come from our individual experiences. To tell someone they're wrong is telling them that your experiences are more valuable than theirs. That’s simply not the truth — you’ll strike a nerve and start an argument.

    2. Don’t use money as a weapon
    Don't bring money into conflicts where it does not belong. If your partner is upset because you have not been spending time together, don't say something like, "I’m working to pay off your bills." Also, don't go on a spending binge if you're mad at your spouse. Actions like these take problems that aren't related to money into dangerous territory.

    3. Set long- and short-term goals as a couple

    Ask yourself questions like "What are some things we want to do with our finances this year? Do we want to build up our savings or take a vacation? What do we want to do in five or 10 years? How does our behavior have to change individually and as a couple in order to accomplish our dreams?"


    4. Stay connected to your goals

    A great way to stay on top of your goals is to do a monthly money date. Attach a positive activity to it, like dinner, and be sure to talk about your goals and dreams, not just your problems. Figure out how to build on each other's strengths (Note: Do not have this meeting at the beginning or end of the month, as things tend to be tense near bill-paying time.)

    5. Have your own money
    While you have goals as a couple, you also have individual needs and goals. Once you agree on what you will each contribute to the family unit, decide on an amount that is off-limits. If you want to take it out into the backyard and burn it, it's your decision. No discussion, no criticism.

    Moment of truth

    Prepare yourself for the new game show that will honestly change television
    with these truthful tips:



    · Physical movements are limited and stiff, as if trying to take up less space

    · Avoid making eye contact.

    · Touch their face, nose, throat and mouth a lot. Avoid touching their chest/heart region with an open hand

    · Might unconsciously place objects between themselves and you

    · Will use YOUR words when answering a question. So if asked, “Did you take my cockroach collection?" a liar will answers, “No, I did not take your cockroach collection.”

    · Tend to add unnecessary details to convince you they aren't lying

    · Are uncomfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation

    · Become relaxed when YOU change the subject. Truthful people tend to get confused when you change the subject. Liars will readily change the subject themselves.

    · Denials are weak and unconvincing. A truthful person’s denials are strong and become stronger with each relevant question.

    · Repeats relevant questions, usually verbatim, to buy more time to formulate a truthful response. Truthful people respond to questions immediately.



    Tune in to the Series Premiere of the controversial new show THE MOMENT OF TRUTH tonight after American Idol at 9pm.

    Tuesday, January 22, 2008

    Diamond hunt

    Diamonds Are Forever, But The Price May Not Be
    (CBS4)

    They say diamonds are forever, but the price you paid for you rock may not be.

    Millions of Americans who bought diamond rings or jewelry could receive a rebate thanks to the pending settlement of a class-action lawsuit against De Beers.


    The suit accuses the diamond company of price-fixing and monopoly practices. Former customers could get refunded 30 percent or more of the price they paid.


    However, you are eligible if you purchased the diamond between 1994 and early 2006 and have the receipt or other proof of purchase.


    Notices of the proposed class-action settlement, which must still be approved by a federal judge in New Jersey in April, began appearing in national newspapers and magazines this month.

    Buyers have until May, 19 to file a claim click here or click De Beers to learn more about the settlement.

    Dole out or not

    From familyeducation.com

    Take out the papers and the trash!
    Or you won't get no spending cash...


    Remember that old ditty from the Fab Fifties? Half a century later, it's the ''home rule'' in many households.

    ''As they get older, I'm drawing a clearer link between chores and allowance,'' says Beryl H., mother of nine-year-old Ari and seven-year-old Molly. ''They need to make their beds, put their clothes in the laundry, and take their dishes off the table. They get allowance for participating in the family. We're not just doling out money.''

    Beryl and husband David pay extra for additional jobs done, like shoveling snow. Ari has his own savings account, and his parents match what he saves, which has proven to be a big incentive. Molly ''wants every piece of plastic jewelry she sees,'' notes her mom, so to curb impulse buys, she's required to wait a few days to see if she still really wants a particular item.

    It all seems to work pretty well, but like everything else in family life these days, questions surrounding allowance have become more complicated. We asked Jayne Pearl, author of Kids & Money: Giving Them the Savvy to Succeed Financially, to answer parents' questions.

    Questions and Answers

    Q. My kids don't get an allowance. Should they?
    A. Absolutely. Today a lot of kids are ''on the dole.'' Parents reach into their pockets, or choose not to, when kids ask for something. The problem with that is there's no real accountability. For one thing, parents don't have a clue what kids are spending, and they're missing a great opportunity.

    Q. How much should kids get?
    A. I like to put as much control in kids' hands as possible. Have them pay for school lunches, church offerings, and birthday presents. Keep track of what you spend on their needs and desires over a couple of weeks, and then come up with a reasonable figure to base their allowance on. Tell kids, ''You're in charge and you have to make this money last.'' By age seven or eight, they're ready to start with savings incentives, learning tradeoffs, and delayed gratification.


    Read more from the experts.

    Throw a divorce party

    From divorcepartyplanner.com
    A Divorce Party is a way to mark the end of the pain and suffering that comes with divorce.

    A Divorce Party provides the ritual we humans need to cope with any difficult life transition. Rituals provide comfort and community.

    A Divorce Party is an opportunity to vent, to cry, laugh, yell, whatever you need to do, in the company of loving friends and family.

    Friends can throw a party to show their divorcing pal that they are supported, loved and not alone.

    The party can be a great way the newly divorced person can thank all the people who stood by them through the ordeal of separation.

    The party is an opportunity to announce your new status in life. You are now single and available for new experiences and even new relationships. A whole new phase of life is just beginning. And that is something to celebrate!

    You could serve banana splits for dessert!

    No cell phone in bed

    A new study finds that using a cell phone just before bedtime interferes with sleep patterns.

    For some of us, it's the last thing we do each night. Make that final phone call and go to bed. Not anymore, according to a new study .
    Your deepest sleep could be disrupted from the radiation coming from your cell phone, according to the study. This could mean a groggy, grouchy state of mind the next day.


    Florida researchers say teens are suffering from "junk sleep" because of cell phones, laptops and electronic equipment kept by their bed.

    For teens, the effects are even worse.
    They need much more sleep, and they’re not getting it. Experts say teens tend to text late at night, even having conversations under the covers to hide from their parents. Their sleep patterns are a mess. Which can lead to lower grades, lack of concentration, depression and even mood swings.

    Monday, January 21, 2008

    MLK events

    DEERFIELD BEACH

    Program with speaker U.S. Rep. Alcee Hastings, 10 a.m. at Westside Park, 445 SW Second St. Call 954-480-4480.

    Freedom March and Parade, 9 a.m. at Pioneer Park, 425 NE Third St. Call 954-480-4480.

    FORT LAUDERDALE

    Celebration, 3-5 p.m. at Boulevard Gardens Community Center, 313 NW 28th Terrace. Call 954-625-2988.

    HALLANDALE BEACH
    Parade, 10 a.m. at BF James Park, 101 NW Ninth St. Call 954-457-1452.

    VIP luncheon, 12:30 p.m. at Ten Palms Restaurant at Gulfstream Park Racing & Casino, 901 S. Federal Highway. Call 954-454-7000.

    POMPANO BEACH
    Parade, 9 a.m. at Mitchell Moore Park, 901 NW 10th St. Call 954-913-4017.

    Celebration with performers Romie Lee Peterson and the Rev. Derrick Gay, 11 a.m. at Blanch Ely High School, 1201 NW Sixth Ave. Call 954-913-4017.

    Compiled by Steve Coate
    Sun-sentinel.com

    Cuddle with a robot

    Meet the cuddly green baby dinosaur that is taking the world by storm. Pleo is a baby Camarasaurus, a plant eating dinosaur from the Jurassic period. About the size of a house cat.

    Got a needle and thread?

    Calling All Fashionistas!
    Think you can whip up a fabulous frock?

    To find out, enter your original dress design sketch - think a sundress, evening gown, or anything in between! From there, MSN and Glam.com readers will vote online for their favorites and the top 8 finalists will then create the dress they've envisioned. The winner - selected by our panel of judges - will be flown to New York and have the opportunity to apprentice in Adam + Eve designer, Adam Lippes' studio!

    There are two ways to enter:
    Upload Your Sketch via Glam.Com or via e-mail: BeDiscovered@glammedia.com

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