Finding love

Are you still looking for the love of your life?

If you’re like most singletons, you aren’t actually looking. You’re waiting for someone to find you. According to David Steele, author of “Conscious Dating”, people put more effort into buying a car than selecting a mate. When they do meet someone, they make impulsive decisions based on desperation or fleeting feelings. So, here are his tips on how to stop hoping for love, and become a conscious dater who’s actively looking for it:

Know who you are and what you want. Think of yourself as an iceberg. The “everyday” you is the part that sticks up out of the water and the real you is the 90% that’s hidden from view. So, sit down with a piece of paper, and ask your hidden self a few questions. Like, what new places, activities, and experiences would you like to try? Where do you see yourself five years from now in work, family, and fun? That’s the person you should be selling to the world.

Then, become the partner you’re looking for. Grab your “wish list,” pick an activity, and make plans to do it. Whether it’s trying spicy Indian food, bungee jumping off a bridge, or sitting under a waterfall on a tropical island. If you do what you love, you’re more likely to run into someone who loves it, too. Voilà – an instant connection!
Strengthen your relationship skills with your family, friends, and co-workers. Bottom line: The better you are at relationships in general, the better you’ll be at creating - and holding onto - a relationship when you finally meet “The One”.