In the mood?

(theartofloveandintimacy.com)

Many men are confused and perhaps frustrated at times, wanting their wives to more easily get in the mood for physical intimacy.
The arousal response is different in men and women. It is true that (generally speaking) men and women respond and react differently to various forms of behavior and stimulation.

Women desire physical closeness when they feel loved, adored, appreciated, cared for, desired, and attractive by their partner. Women also are more easily stimulated when they feel sensual, sexy, and attractive as a female.

Knowing this, and gaining information from numerous research studies, it is not difficult to understand why some women are not interested in sex and why some women are more apt to desire physical closeness with their husbands.

Here are ten simple ideas for men, to help women become more interested in physical intimacy. The purpose of this list is not to create a superficial list of things men must do so they can have more sex; it is intended as some ideas to help a relationship become closer and more intimate so the sexual relationship can be a healthy and satisfying one for both partners.

1. Show appreciation - be specific and clear by noticing and expressing your gratitude for her.

2. Be kind, considerate, and compassionate, - noticing and caring for her needs; treat her as you did when you first were in love.

3. Disclose your need for her - be open as you allow yourself to be vulnerable.

4. Notice some specific wonderful traits about her - and share what you notice with your wife.

5. Compliment her for specific things - what is beautiful about your wife? Notice her physical beauty as well as her character, mind, creativity, etc. The more sexy a woman feels the more she is inclined to desire physical intimacy.

6. Tell her how you adore and cherish her - it is often difficult for a woman to want to be intimate when she does not feel important or significant.

7. Help her to feel special in your eyes - what is it that YOU admire and love most?

8. Let her know she is the most important person in your life - women respond best when they feel they are the most significant woman in your life.

9. Be affectionate - in non-sexual ways without an ulterior motive.

10.Express your love - honestly, openly, and deeply.

The key here is to not behave or say things solely for the purpose of getting some action. This list is intended to bring a closeness to the relationship that will ultimately lead to a more healthy and balanced intimate relationship.

There is a fine line between expressing love for the sake of more sex vs. being open and honest and appreciative so the relationship can be more loving and intimate.