Oscar night

I stayed up for about half of the show last night and was pleasantly surprised. It was much more entertaining than in years past. There were winners and losers on the red carpet too.

Slumdog Millionaire was the big winner at the 81st annual Academy Awards last night, scooping up many of the ceremony's top honors, including best picture, best director, best adapted screenplay and best cinematography. Winning eight awards in all, the rags-to-riches love story was the clear front-runner of the star-studded event, held at the Kodak Theater in Los Angeles. Slumdog, which had 10 nominations, also scored best original song, best score, best film editing and best sound mixing.
Leading nominee The Curious Case of Benjamin Button entered the evening with 13 nominations. It picked up a three technical awards, including best makeup, best art direction and best visual effects.
The most heartbreaking moment of the night came when the late Heath Ledger was announced as the best supporting actor winner for his role as The Joker in The Dark Knight. Many of the audience members -- some of whom knew Ledger personally -- got emotional when his family walked up to the stage to accept the honor on behalf of Ledger's little girl, Matilda.
And as expected, Kate Winslet took home her first-ever Oscar for her role as a former Nazi camp guard in The Reader. Looks like the sixth time was a charm for the British actress. She beat out record-breaking 15-time nominee Meryl Streep, who has won two Oscars throughout her own career.
Sean Penn won the best actor trophy for his starring role in Milk. He faced some competition from Mickey Rourke, who won last month's Golden Globes for his role in The Wrestler.
Penelope Cruz won the best supporting actress prize for her part in Woody Allen's comedy Vicky Cristina Barcelona.
Host Hugh Jackman turned the evening into a musical affair by performing several song and dance numbers.

BEST DRESSED
Marisa Tomei: The best of the best. The one-strapped, white, pleated gown was divine. While we took in many of the beautiful dresses, said wow, and moved on, we wanted to look at Tomei all night. The many intricate pleats looked like they were pieced together just to compliment her frame, which they did to perfection. She's 44-years-old??
Freida Pinto: Pinto's single sheer-sleeved, beaded, blue gown stood out on the red carpet and seemed reminiscent of her Indian heritage. Although we were expecting something a little more dramatic (i.e. bigger and puffier), the unique, form-fitting ensemble could only have flattered the most beautiful of women, which Pinto proved she is.
Miley Cyrus: Minus the belt, Miley's princess-style petaled and beaded gown was striking. It is every girl's fantasy dress. Love it or hate it, there's probably not a female in the world who would pass up the opportunity to try it on and gaze at herself in the mirror.
Jennifer Aniston: The actress wisely saved her best look of the year for her first post-divorce event with Brangelina. A cute braid and subtly waved hair accentuated an unusually soft look for the actress, who has had a habit of making her solid, toned body the stand-out feature of her red carpet looks. Coincidence or not, the flowing hair and strapless, beaded white gown immediately reminded us of her 2004 Emmy appearance, which she made on the arm of ex-husband Brad Pitt.
Natalie Portman: She wasn't the only star dressed in pink (Alicia Keys wisely chose the color as well), but she did it best. The corset-like bodice and simple, flowing skirt were mere accessories to her striking beauty, which needed no dramatic jewelry or hairstyle to shine.
Halle Berry: The surprise presenter looked amazing. She could not have looked any more stunning if she'd tried. It's only a shame we couldn't have admired her for longer on the red carpet.
WORST DRESSED:
Whoopi Goldberg: Leopard print. Blousey, ill-fitting leopard print. No. No. No.
Sarah Jessica Parker: Her "barely mint" gown looked like a cheap wedding dress. And belts don't go with wedding dresses. Not to mention, mousy brown locks do not suit the Sex and the City star -- and the flat top, puffed bottom 'do didn't help salvage the complete look, which failed.
Sophia Loren: The 74-year-old looked like a crazy old grandmother who picked out her ruffled, yellow frock from a costume trunk. She appeared to have applied her heavy makeup -- and bronzer -- with the same disillusioned hand.
Heidi Klum: Red carpet hosts described the model's gown as evoking origami, and we agree that it did indeed look like someone folded material, albeit aimlessly, and molded it around her body. Her harshly-parted hair looked greasy and her subtle makeup ended up making her look tired and washed out. A rare miss for one of fashion's finest.

Are you late again?

Are you always on time or are you always running late? About 20% of us run late. But what can you do about it?

Check out this article I found. It has some helpful tips.

Have a ‘chronically late’ personality?
If you know why you’re always tardy, you can take steps to be on time
By Dr. Gail Saltz
TODAYShow.com contributor

It doesn’t matter what’s your appointment, you’re always late. Always. You’re late for business meetings, your kid’s play, dinner with your new in-laws … everything. As the saying goes, you could even be late for your own funeral.
Sure, your chronic tardiness bothers you, but it probably infuriates others who are constantly wasting their time waiting for you. Ever wonder what this is all about? Do you genuinely want to be on time and make your life happier and less stressful?Before you can change your behavior, you have to understand why you are chronically late. Much like procrastinators, people have different reasons for being tardy.

Here are some of the main personality traits of so-called “late-niks”:

Risk-takers: These people are addicted to the thrill of leaving for their appointed destination only when they absolutely must. They don’t mind taking the risk of being late, because they don’t want to risk being early and waiting for others. This may be because deep-down they fear feeling rejected, if they wind up waiting for others.
Freedom-makers: Those who felt trapped by authority as children often grow up to be “late-niks,” who use lateness to feel free. Their intense wish not to be controlled by others may be at the root of their lateness. Or they may have a rebellious nature that essentially tells others: “You will not tell me how to run my life and when I have to be somewhere.”
Organization-slackers: Another reason someone may be late is poor organizational skills. They have difficulty planning out a realistic schedule and calculating how long each of their tasks will take and how long it will take them to get to their appointments on time. These people generally have poor organizational skills, though they may be very intelligent.
Trouble-avoiders: These people, unconsciously or even consciously, wish to avoid the people they are supposed to meet or the place where they are going. This may be the reason for their lateness. In these situations, lateness may be a form of passive-aggressive behavior. Since they’re angry that they must go to an appointment, they make others wait for them. These late-niks may not even be aware of their anger.

If you want to stop being chronically late, the most important thing to do is to decide you really want to start being on time. Then, you have to figure out which “late-nik” personality you have. Understanding the underlying reasons why you are late, will give you a shot at changing your behavior.

Dr. Gail Saltz's bottom line: Punctuality demonstrates a sense of responsibility. Being on time will impress others and make them feel valued.

To hug or not to hug

Today we talked about hugging. Are you a hugger and do you hug in the workplace? Does your company encourage it? I'm a big hugger but I can usually tell if someone is open to a hug or I'll ask first. But word is...it may take the place of a good ole fashioned handshake.

Time magazine reflects in this week's issue that the hug is in many situations beginning to replace the handshake. Saying that the hug is gaining ground in not only social situations, but in the workplace too -- even on first meetings -- Time cites some possible explanations. Mental health professionals have chalked it up to a range of things, including increasing population density, community spirit among the "millennials" generation, and 9/11 bringing the country together.

There's also some who point to pop culture influence, such as The Sopranos showing tough guys hugging, or the male stars of HBO's Entourage talking about "hugging it out." Time notes that the workplace hug can be a little tricky -- you don't want to cross the line that could make it seem inappropriate. And it's important that both people be on the same page, to avoid a hand slamming into someone else's stomach -- or someplace more delicate -- if a handshaker goes to greet a hugger.

The magazine describes three types of common hugs:

The Full Frontal Hug -- Total front body contact with a firm squeeze. This is used for parents, children and good friends.
The A**-Out Hug -- These are those hugs when nothing touches below the shoulders. Time says this is used for the office and bad dates.
The Hip-Hop Hug -- Shake with the right hand and hug with the left, giving two slaps on the back. Also called the Man Hug and the Hetero Hug

Men need to know

This morning we asked you what was most attractive about your sweetheart...most of you said sense of humor, eyes and a good heart.

But here are 5 things men should know about women.

While there is no playbook for how to snag and keep a good woman, science has accumulated some helpful tips toward a successful romantic life designed to last well beyond Valentine's Day.

Offer money, love and dependability
Gals want looks and smarts. While you men can't control those two characteristics much, take heart: Money and character are also important to women. A study in December of more than 1,000 undergraduate students revealed women's top mate characteristics were mutual attraction and love, dependable character, and emotional stability.
Quality time counts, too.
A survey of more than 5,000 U.S. couples published in the journal Social Forces in 2006 suggested women are happiest in their marriages when men show a high level of emotional engagement: expressing positive emotions; being attentive to their wives' needs; and setting aside time for activities focused specifically on the relationship.

Practice saying 'thank you'
When it comes to a committed relationship, spats about money and household chores top the list of sources for marital rancor. And research has shown women take on the lion's share of laundry and such.
Listen up, guys: One simple way to keep a lady happy even while buried beneath chores is to say "thank you."
Results from a study of both married couples and college students living with roommates revealed that people who felt appreciated by their partners had less resentment over lopsided house labor. Those who felt appreciated also showed higher satisfaction with their relationships compared with other study participants.

Don't be jealous
The Brad Pitts of the world may be good for your relationship. Psychologists have found that after meeting an available, attractive guy, women are more likely to work to strengthen their current relationships. The study, published last year in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, ran lab-based experiments of more than 700 college men and women.
In one experiment, women either met a single guy who flirted with them or an unavailable man who ignored them. Women who met the single guy were about 18 percent more likely to say they'd forgive their significant others for lying about the reason for canceling a date or other irritating behavior.
In a similar situation, men who met a hot, single woman were about 12 percent less likely than other men to forgive partners' annoying behavior.

Leave aggression on the field
Women may dig guys roughing it up in a hockey game or other athletic competition. But when it comes to long-term romance, ladies would rather if their mates left such power punches on the ice (or other field), according to a study published in the December 2008 issue of the journal Personal Relationships.
Jeffrey Snyder, a doctoral candidate and evolutionary anthropologist at UCLA, and his colleagues found that women preferred men who relied on prestige, or certain skills and accomplishments, to get to the top, as opposed to men who used subtle aggressive behaviors to reach a powerful position — say, in a fraternity.
But don't women go for "bad guys?" Not when it comes to long-term relationships. If that aggressive man isn't flexible in his behavior, the result could be a domineering bully for a partner.
"If you have one individual that every time they disagree they get coercive and insist that their perspective is best, that their decision is final, and they're going to get their way, that compromises the ability of individuals in a relationship to coordinate," Snyder told LiveScience. "Basically what I'm talking about is inviting a jerk into your household."

Watch her heart
Chocolates may be one way to a woman's heart on Valentine's Day, but true love is more than a box of chocolates. Heart disease is the No. 1 killer of women, and studies have found women, being generally so bighearted, are more likely to than men to discount their own risk of heart disease. Your job, men: Make sure your sweetie gets regular checkups and takes care of herself.
"Women must get serious about heart disease and take control of their heart health, starting at an early age," said Elizabeth Nabel, director of the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute. "Younger women need to take steps now, like eating a healthy diet and being physically active, to help prevent heart disease later."

Divot pooped out

The end of a very busy Valentines weekend for us and Divot.

Divot does the Keys

Our new puppy "Divot" had a wonderful time in the Keys.

Valentine makegood

I had a lovely Valentines Day with Howard. We spent it in the Keys, there was roses, cards and bling!

Jeff Martin had a romantic one too. He was with a mystery woman in New York. I WANT DETAILS, JEFF!!!

But if you messed up and forgot you may be in the doghouse. Here is some help to get back in her good graces.

Don't try to redo Valentine's Day

This is crucial to getting forgiveness. Your sweetheart probably would have happily accepted most generic Valentine’s Day gifts on the actual day, but a heart-shaped box of chocolates that you bought at half-price at the drugstore the day after isn’t going to cut it now. It’s lame and will only remind her of your initial screwup. Your mission now is to totally knock her socks off with a well thought-out and unique surprise.

Is there a posh eatery she’s been dying to go to? You're more likely to get a reservation on a Sunday evening anyway, and it will make an otherwise ordinary night special.

Has it been a while since the two of you spent some time alone? Plan a weekend getaway at a cute bed and breakfast or quiet beach resort.Low on cash? It’s all about the personal touches in your plan, not how much cash you drop.

Can’t afford a fancy dinner out? Try making up for a bad Valentine's Day by cooking her an elegant meal at your place.

Not able to swing a mini-vacation at the moment? Think up some activity outside of your routine you’d both enjoy, like taking a day trip to a vineyard or going paint-balling.

Have a backup make-up plan
You have to prepare yourself for rejection when it comes to your make-up plan. She wants the compensation from you but she might be too stubborn to forgive and forget your original offense, so you have to be ready with a plan B. It’s all about being accommodating now.If she refuses any of your initial ideas, try a backup plan that doesn’t require her participation at all.

Have a surprise lunch from her favorite restaurant delivered to her at work with a handwritten note from you. Schedule a massage for her and have the spa deliver the news to confirm it to her.

The element of surprise coupled with thoughtfulness that proves you’re thinking only about her happiness should be enough to melt even the iciest of shoulders.Valentine’s Day may be a little corny, but at its core it celebrates love and gives you the opportunity to show your girlfriend just how much you appreciate her. To make up for a bad Valentine's Day, all you need is a solid recovery plan and she'll be swooning. Just don’t forget it again next year -- then you’re on your own.

Date night

This morning you reminisced about your first date with your sweetheart.

Howard and I saw the movie "Talladega Nights: The Ballad of Ricky Bobby " but it was the kiss over apple pie that I'll never forget.

It's important to keep that flame burning. Here are some great date night ideas.

Wake up on time-pill

If you're like one of the millions of Americans who dread the sound of your alarm clock in the morning, then you're probably going to enjoy this story. A new pill has been introduced called "The Wake-Up Pill," designed to help you start your day naturally by waking up on time.

I just hook up the IV to the coffeemaker. But Jeff Martin says he bounces out of bed bright and chipper. Annoying isn't he!?

How's your high note?

Mariah Carey fans and your sweethearts can now celebrate Valentine's Day with something special.

You can sing your own version of a Carey ballad and send it to your near and dear in the form of a Valentine's Day e-card. The promotion is in support of the recent release of Mariah Carey: The Ballads.
Go to MyMariahBallad.com to sing your own version of "'Dreamlover," 'Vision Of Love," or "Hero," and add a personal message with the e-card. Versions featuring Carey's original vocals are also available.

Keep the flame burning

Don't wait till the 14th to rekindle your love. Here are a few things you can try with your sweetheart.

Leave Notes (in Unusual Places) Perhaps life has become so busy that you feel like your schedule rarely coincides with that of your partner or kids. How about leaving them a note somewhere unexpected? You’ve probably all heard of kids having little notes from their mom’s in their lunch bags – that’s one place to start, but how about a note by the kettle, in the fridge, on the pillow, on the computer screen...? This can become a bit of a game as you compete to leave a note in the most unusual places!

Hug Someone Physical gestures mean a huge amount, and a hug can be just what a loved one needs to put a big smile on their face. Whether it’s snuggling up on the sofa with your partner or giving your kids a goodnight hug, being held and warmed by another person is a perfect way to feel loved.
Write A Poem A time-honored way to say “I love you” is to write a poem. You don’t have to be Shakespeare – look for sincere, original ways to tell someone that you love them. Try not to fall back on hackneyed phrases about their beautiful blue eyes or their rosy red lips; write about something that’s meaningful to you, perhaps that dimple on their chin, or the way they laugh at your jokes.
Give An Unexpected Gift I’m sure you give your loved ones gifts on their birthday, at Christmas, and on special occasions like Valentine’s day. But how about bringing a gift completely at random? An unexpected present is a moment of pure joy for the recipient and the giver, and it needn’t be anything expensive. A few of their favorite chocolates, a small bunch of flowers, a book which you know they’ll enjoy ... for a few dollars, you have the perfect way to say “I love you”.
Do The Chores (Without Being Asked) For many people, another extremely welcomed gift is someone else doing the chores! If it’s your partner who usually cleans the kitchen, why not do it and surprise him/her? If you normally have to be nagged to vacuum, get it done without being asked. Finding little ways to make someone else’s day smoother lets them know how much they mean to you.
Hold Hands Like hugging, holding hands is something that we often neglect to do when a relationship becomes cozy and familiar. Try taking your partner’s hand when walking down the street, or hold their hands across a table in a restaurant. Being in contact physically helps you feel closer emotionally. This is especially important if you need to talk through a difficult issue or problem. Holding hands can also be a visible demonstration of support if your partner is upset or feeling down.
Make A Special Meal If Friday nights usually mean ordering takeout, why not offer to cook for a change? Make a special meal for your partner (you don’t need an excuse for this – it doesn’t have to be Valentine’s day or an anniversary!) Include their favorite foods, take a few minutes to set the table, to light candles and put music on, and your usual forgettable evening slumped on the sofa can become a night to remember...
Dress Up In the early stages of a relationship, you probably made the effort to look your best. Of course it’s nice to get to the point where you can lounge around in your jammies or your over sized, hole-ridden t-shirt... but occasionally getting dressed up can rekindle that early excitement in the relationship. Why not go out to a “swankier” restaurant than usual (it doesn’t have to be much more expensive), or just get dressed up in your party clothes for a special meal for two at home?
Give a Foot/Shoulder Rub Modern life is stressful and many of us have aches and pains caused by tense muscles. A shoulder rub, back rub or foot rub is a wonderful way to tell your partner “I love you”. It demonstrates that their physical well being and comfort is important to you, and it’s also a great way to reinforce physical and emotional closeness.
Listen to Them It’s easy to talk over people or to tune out most of what they’re saying whilst reading the newspaper or chatting online with friends. Listen actively to your partner – when they want to talk, put down what you’re doing, and focus all your attention on them. Listen for what they don’t say; unvoiced concerns or worries, or hints at what they’d really like. Nod and make eye-contact to show that you’re paying attention.

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Divot and "Pinky"

She's growing up so fast. Jeff Martin and his daughters came by to meet the little princess and they brought her a gift that she dearly loves to chew. We call it "Pinky".....by the way the yellow stuffed duck that quacks all the time is named Jeff Martin. Divot really likes to bite it's butt. LOL

Risking I-95

Today we talked about our daily risks...everything from extreme sports to eating raw cookie dough. But everyone agrees that the biggest daily risk is drving on I-95. Especially since they installed the new entrance ramp signals.

FDOT has activated the new Ramp Signals along Northbound I-95 entrance ramps between NW 62nd St and NW 167th St.

These Ramp Signals are designed to restrict the flow of traffic onto I-95 during peak travel hours and during incidents that cause an impact to traffic. Ramp Signals should be treated as if they were Traffic Lights, and FHP will have additional Troopers on hand for vehicle enforcement.

According to FHP, failure to stop for these red lights can produce fines of up to $180 and 3 points on the license. FDOT has stated that these signals will not cause traffic to back up on the ramp, and will significantly help congestion during rush hour periods.

Co-rumination

When I need to vent or get something off my chest...I go to my husband, mom, sister and sometimes my co-worker...but Jeff has a very short attention span. When it comes to teen girls sharing their problems...there may be a problem.

Most teenage girls love to talk to their friends. And talk. And talk.

Recently female friendship and girl talk, particularly among adolescents, has drawn growing interest from psychologists and researchers examining the question of how much talking is too much talking. Some studies have found that excessive talking about problems can contribute to emotional difficulties, including anxiety and depression.
The term researchers use is “co-rumination” to describe frequently or obsessively discussing the same problem.

Virtual bubble wrap

What makes you happiest at the end of a long hard workday? You said spending time with your dog, a hot bath, a glass of wine and cooking dinner.

For me ...it's virtual bubble wrap. Try it! Careful, it's addictive. Be sure to hit the "manic mode."

A BIG Valentine

Valentines check list:

Sweetheart, mom and dad, brother and sister, ....and boss? What do you get your boss for Valentines day? Here is suggestion and it only weighs 1000 pounds.

This Valentine's Day, adopt a real manatee for someone you care about. Funds from the Club’s Adopt-A-Manatee program go toward efforts to help protect endangered manatees and their habitat. Unlike other animal adoption programs, the manatees in our adoption programs are real, living manatees with known histories. You even have the opportunity of seeing your adopted manatee at one of three locations in Florida!

Super commercials

What was your favorite ad during the Super Bowl? The guy who got hit by a bus? There was also an electrocution, a golf club to the head, and a low level executive who gets thrown out of a fourth story window.

I think my favorite was the Clydesdale that fetched a really big stick.

Check out all the ads.

Susan is a teapot!

The Cardinals lost...barely. Final score 27 to 23. So upholding my end of the bet with Jeff Martin, here I am doing the "teapot" dance and singing "Im a little teapot."

I'm a little teapot, short and stout

Here is my handle, here is my spout

When I get all steamed up, hear me shout

Just tip me over and pour me out!

I'm a clever teapot, yes it's true

Here's an example of what I can do

I can change my handle to my spout

Just tip me over and pour me out

C'mon, didn't you really want to see Jeff in a dress though??

More pictures of Divot

How do you get a puppy to sleep in a crate. Divot is NOT a fan. Here are more pictures of Divot over the weekend.

Our new puppy

Howard and I just brought home our new little girl.

She is a Basenji, we named her "Divot" and the first night was quite a tale. I didn't know a puppy could poop that much...and the smell! OMG! We just love her though and we welcome her to her new home.