5 Things you shouldn't do after you say "I do"

Once the cake’s cut and the bouquet’s tossed, it’s time to get down to the business of living as husband and wife. But that’s not as easy as it sounds! Here are the five things you SHOULDN’T do after you say “I do.” This comes from Web MD:

Don’t say, “My family always does it this way.” Everything you think about a relationship, from how to spend money to who does which chores, comes from your family. And guess what? So does everything your spouse believes! Think of building your marriage like you’d build a house. Using two different sets of plans only causes confusion. So come up with a new plan that belongs to you both.

Don’t think marriage will make you happy, because it won’t. The biggest predictor of how happy you’ll be after you’re married is how happy you were before the wedding. No matter how you slice it, being happy is a do-it-yourself job.

The 3rd trap newlyweds need to avoid to make their marriage last? Believing your partner will change. They won’t, so make sure you can deal with their bad habits before you say, “I do.” If you try to change your sweetie, you’ll wind up in a power struggle, and that makes for an unhappy marriage.

If you think talking about the hard stuff will take the romance out of your marriage, get over it! Kids, money, moving. Whatever your sensitive issues are, get them out into the open. Talking that stuff through will make you feel loved and accepted, and feeling safe with someone makes them the most desirable person in the world.

And one last mistake newlyweds need to avoid? Shying away from a fight! Couples who claim they never fight are either fibbing or missing the chance to really build a strong relationship. The key is learning how to handle conflict - because that’s what makes couples successful in the long run. Couples don’t give up on their marriage because they fight. They give up because they stop trying to work through their differences.