Coping with nerves

On Susan's Survey, we learned that the most prevalent nervous habit is avoiding looking someone in the eyes. Some people tap their feet, others play with their hair, and there are those who crack their knuckles.

Here are some techniques to put those habits to rest, at least during key times, like during an interview or on a date.

Can't look someone in the eye? Practice at home in front of your mirror, pretending that you're the other person. Challenge yourself to look into your own eyes for at least 1 minute, increasing the time gradually. You can also try leaning slightly forward toward the person you're trying to converse with. Your body language will demonstrate your interest, and by physically moving yourself forward, it will be harder to look away.

Foot tapper? Cross your feet at the ankles.

Finger tapper? Put your hands in your pockets. Likewise for knuckle-crackers. Also effective if you catch yourself playing with your hair. Or you can put your up in a bun - then there's nothing to play with.

Other tips to cope with nerves:

Wear clothes that make you feel and look good, to boost your confidence.
For a job interview, be familiar with the job description, and how your skills match what the company is looking for.
For a date, prepare some conversation starters in advance. Ask open-ended questions so your date can talk and reveal his own personality. Be yourself - you're most charming and interesting when you're not trying to be something you're not.