8 Marriage Ruts: Are You In One?
Whether you've been married for three months or three years, here's how to get out of routines that hurt your relationship.
By The Nest Editors
Rut #1: Watching TV During Dinner
Why it's bad: Having dinner together offers valuable face time with your partner. Turning on the tube competes for attention and cuts in on your time to catch up and connect after so many hours spent apart.
How to stop: Set aside 30 to 45 minutes of one-on-one talk time with the TV off every night. This shows your spouse that when you're not at work, you're devoted to your home and family. During this time, ignore your phone and leave the BlackBerry in another room. You'll feel closer within days.
Rut #2: Going Too Long Without Sex
Why it's bad: If the amount of sex you're used to having starts to slide, your body and brain can get used to the decreased intimacy, causing you to go even longer without wanting that closeness.
How to stop: Don't wait until you feel like doing it. Initiate sex when you're open to doing it, rather than when you have the desire. This will jump-start your feelings so you'll crave it more often.
Rut #3: Going a Whole Workday Without Talking to Your Sweetheart
Why it's bad: You'll start growing apart emotionally after subconsciously feeling like the other person doesn't think about you (and your needs) during the day.
How to stop: Initiate daily contact by sending a quick "How's your day?" email. And make the effort to do something nice every day (pick up his fave dessert, call from the store to see if she needs something). It shows forethought and consideration for your partner's needs.
Rut #4: Tuning Each Other Out
Why it's bad: You're disengaging from each other.
How to stop: Make an effort to do small things such as kissing before saying good-bye, making eye contact when talking, and complimenting each other frequently throughout the week. Does he not seem to hear you talking during certain times (ahem, when ESPN is on)? Don't try to make conversation while the TV is on. If it's important, press mute; otherwise, save conversations for dinner or your bedroom, where you're less likely to be interrupted.
Rut #5: Not Fighting
Why it's bad: Disagreements are good in a marriage because you're expressing your individuality. Talking about issues when they first happen makes them easier to fix than if you wait until after they've festered.
How to stop: Bring up what's on your mind in a way that shows your admiration and respect for each other's thoughts and feelings. Like, "It hurts my feelings when ______. I was hoping we could figure out a new way to handle the situation together." This will set the tone of the conversation as loving and calm, but you both have to compromise to keep it that way.
Rut #6: Going out More with Friends Than with Your SpouseWhy it's bad: It sends the message that your friends are more worthy of your time.
How to stop: Schedule nights out with your crew a few times a month, but make sure to let your partner know in advance. It's important to have these friendships as long as they don't make your married time sparse. And it's always best that these friends are people your partner knows and trusts, so there's less reason to worry.
Rut #7: Being Too Close
Why it's bad: As much as you think burping, scratching, picking, or farting is funny or cute, it can backfire and cross the line. It may be a reflection of your closeness, but there should be a limit. Otherwise, you're leaving your partner with a very unsexy image of you.
How to stop: Start a new rule. If you wouldn't do it in front of your work friends, don't do it in front of your honey. To get your mate to refrain, say: "I know we're close, and we can share everything, but I'd really appreciate it if you'd leave the room, or leave me out, when you do that. It's not very sexy, and I don't want anything that makes you less sexy to me."
Rut #8: Sharing Too Much with Your Parents or In-laws
Why it's bad: This shows a lack of loyalty to your spouse. Your parents shouldn't have any information that your spouse doesn't have. And they shouldn't know anything he wouldn't want them to know.
How to stop: Be loyal to your spouse even when she's not present. If you wouldn't say something in front of her, don't say it at all. You would want the same in return.
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Beyond books
5 Lessons the Teacher Can't Give Your Kids
Article provided by Tutor.com.
At some point, your kids are going to outgrow the need for your help with their homework. With the kitchen sink full of dishes, bills to pay and to-do lists to conquer, chances are that's just fine with you -- especially if your kids are taking classes that weren't even offered when you were in school.
But that doesn't mean you don't play a critical role in your children's education in other ways. Here are five beyond-the-books life skills to teach your kids that they may not learn in school.
Money matters
It's never too soon to give a financial lesson. If you haven't already, open a bank account for your children. Build on the math skills they learn in school and talk to them about how a savings account can grow and what it means if they overdraw the account.
Use real-life examples to show where financial pitfalls occur. For example, those “No payments for a year” ads might make you skeptical, but to kids, it may it look like a good deal. Teach them how to read the fine-print details and to be on the hunt for those sneaky asterisks.
With college comes a deluge of credit card offers and if your child doesn't understand the consequences of accumulating a large balance on a high interest-rate card, they could be paying down that debt well beyond their 20s.
Responsibility rules
With students having to report to class on time and meet deadlines with homework and other school assignments, the stage is already set for this lesson.
If they miss an assignment or get up late, they're not going to get fired from school -- and you know that doesn't relate well to the real world. So when they make a misstep, give them the real scoop about what it means to be late for work or to miss a deadline.
Sitting in detention is one thing -- but missing out on bonuses and the corner office might hit home a little harder. Bad habits in the classroom can predict bad habits in the workplace.
Good manners count
Little things like forgetting to hold a door open or even being too informal in a business e-mail can hinder landing a dream job.
If you've ever watched your kids goofing off at the mall, you probably know that good manners -- and good grammar for that matter -- often go by the wayside.
You don't have to rain on their parade, but you can illustrate the differences between how they behave now with how they'll need to behave in the future.
Take them to work with you when they have a day off from school, or attend a local school board or city council meeting so they can observe how adults communicate in a business setting.
Household chores aren't optional
While you probably already assign a few, you might want to offer up a real lesson in housework.
By college, your child should know how to wash clothes, cook up a quick meal -- besides ramen noodles -- and keep things in (relatively) good order.
You might even want to show them how to sew on a button and iron a shirt. Then let them take over for a weekend, while you sit back and enjoy the results.
Work on career skills
Homework leaves little time for a paying job. But kids can learn how the skills they're learning can apply to a career.
Have your child visit job sites on the Web and read job descriptions for careers that interest them.
Encourage your kids to think about their career goals and craft a résumé that includes teams they've played on, clubs they've belonged to or volunteer jobs they've held. This résumé can help immensely when your child is looking for that first summer job.
Your child may not think playing soccer relates to a dream of becoming a lawyer, but competition and teamwork are skills that translate from the field to the courtroom.
Article provided by Tutor.com.
At some point, your kids are going to outgrow the need for your help with their homework. With the kitchen sink full of dishes, bills to pay and to-do lists to conquer, chances are that's just fine with you -- especially if your kids are taking classes that weren't even offered when you were in school.
But that doesn't mean you don't play a critical role in your children's education in other ways. Here are five beyond-the-books life skills to teach your kids that they may not learn in school.
Money matters
It's never too soon to give a financial lesson. If you haven't already, open a bank account for your children. Build on the math skills they learn in school and talk to them about how a savings account can grow and what it means if they overdraw the account.
Use real-life examples to show where financial pitfalls occur. For example, those “No payments for a year” ads might make you skeptical, but to kids, it may it look like a good deal. Teach them how to read the fine-print details and to be on the hunt for those sneaky asterisks.
With college comes a deluge of credit card offers and if your child doesn't understand the consequences of accumulating a large balance on a high interest-rate card, they could be paying down that debt well beyond their 20s.
Responsibility rules
With students having to report to class on time and meet deadlines with homework and other school assignments, the stage is already set for this lesson.
If they miss an assignment or get up late, they're not going to get fired from school -- and you know that doesn't relate well to the real world. So when they make a misstep, give them the real scoop about what it means to be late for work or to miss a deadline.
Sitting in detention is one thing -- but missing out on bonuses and the corner office might hit home a little harder. Bad habits in the classroom can predict bad habits in the workplace.
Good manners count
Little things like forgetting to hold a door open or even being too informal in a business e-mail can hinder landing a dream job.
If you've ever watched your kids goofing off at the mall, you probably know that good manners -- and good grammar for that matter -- often go by the wayside.
You don't have to rain on their parade, but you can illustrate the differences between how they behave now with how they'll need to behave in the future.
Take them to work with you when they have a day off from school, or attend a local school board or city council meeting so they can observe how adults communicate in a business setting.
Household chores aren't optional
While you probably already assign a few, you might want to offer up a real lesson in housework.
By college, your child should know how to wash clothes, cook up a quick meal -- besides ramen noodles -- and keep things in (relatively) good order.
You might even want to show them how to sew on a button and iron a shirt. Then let them take over for a weekend, while you sit back and enjoy the results.
Work on career skills
Homework leaves little time for a paying job. But kids can learn how the skills they're learning can apply to a career.
Have your child visit job sites on the Web and read job descriptions for careers that interest them.
Encourage your kids to think about their career goals and craft a résumé that includes teams they've played on, clubs they've belonged to or volunteer jobs they've held. This résumé can help immensely when your child is looking for that first summer job.
Your child may not think playing soccer relates to a dream of becoming a lawyer, but competition and teamwork are skills that translate from the field to the courtroom.
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Do you believe?
Our home galaxy, the Milky Way, is a pretty big place. It harbors 200 to 400 billion stars and spans roughly 100,000 light-years from one edge to the other. (To put it in perspective, Earth is only about 8.3 light-minutes from our own star, the sun.) This is one reason why some scientists feel that alien civilizations are common in the galaxy, possibly numbering in the tens of thousands, and why a small band of astronomers have devoted themselves to the Search for Extraterrestrial Intelligence (SETI). Yet other scientists think we humans are the only creatures in this vast neighborhood with the smarts and technology to communicate across space.
What do you think? Are there aliens in the Milky Way capable of communicating with us?
Aliens are out there, says former Nasa astronaut
A Nasa astronaut who has walked on the moon has claimed that UFOs are real and aliens have visited the earth.
By Laura Clout
Although there is no shortage of subscribers to theories that 'we are not alone’, the fact that Edgar Mitchell, who holds the joint record for the longest moon walk, is among them will come as a surprise to many.
Dr Mitchell, who holds two Bachelor of Science degrees and a doctorate in aeronautics from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, made his comments during an interview with a UK radio station this week.
Asked whether he believed there was life on other planets, he replied: “Oh yes. There’s not much question at all that there is life throughout the universe. I’m totally sure we are not alone.”
The presenter for Birmingham-based Kerrang! Radio could be heard to inhale sharply, before Dr Mitchell continued that he had intelligence “that we have been visited on this planet and the UFO phenomenon is real - though it’s been covered up by governments for the last 60 years or so.”
Dr Mitchell spent nine hours on the moon on February 9 1971 as part of the Apollo 14 mission.
Although he has referred to the existence of extra-terrestrial before, this is the first time the former astronaut has given so much detail about his beliefs.
In a statement, Nasa said: “Nasa does not track UFOs. Dr Mitchell is a great American, but we do not share his opinion on this issue.”
What do you think? Are there aliens in the Milky Way capable of communicating with us?
Aliens are out there, says former Nasa astronaut
A Nasa astronaut who has walked on the moon has claimed that UFOs are real and aliens have visited the earth.
By Laura Clout
Although there is no shortage of subscribers to theories that 'we are not alone’, the fact that Edgar Mitchell, who holds the joint record for the longest moon walk, is among them will come as a surprise to many.
Dr Mitchell, who holds two Bachelor of Science degrees and a doctorate in aeronautics from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, made his comments during an interview with a UK radio station this week.
Asked whether he believed there was life on other planets, he replied: “Oh yes. There’s not much question at all that there is life throughout the universe. I’m totally sure we are not alone.”
The presenter for Birmingham-based Kerrang! Radio could be heard to inhale sharply, before Dr Mitchell continued that he had intelligence “that we have been visited on this planet and the UFO phenomenon is real - though it’s been covered up by governments for the last 60 years or so.”
Dr Mitchell spent nine hours on the moon on February 9 1971 as part of the Apollo 14 mission.
Although he has referred to the existence of extra-terrestrial before, this is the first time the former astronaut has given so much detail about his beliefs.
In a statement, Nasa said: “Nasa does not track UFOs. Dr Mitchell is a great American, but we do not share his opinion on this issue.”
Monday, July 28, 2008
Cut food costs
Smart shopping strategies can cut food cost to a minimum while still providing a nutritious and varied diet.
Food costs can be a drain on any budget. Careful planning strategies, however, can make this necessary expenditure less expensive. Here are ten ways to significantly reduce food costs and get more out of a grocery budget.
(1) Planning menus for a week in advance will help to save money by giving an exact picture of what items are needed. This list of items can be compared against weekly grocery circulars for the best buys on food items. Center menu ideas around items that are on special for the week.
(2) Cut food waste. Buying food in volume only to have to throw out part of it saves no money. Consider investing in a freezer to store food until it is needed. When storing food in a freezer, divide into individual servings. This will save when having to prepare a meal for only a few family members or one person. Also invest in proper storage containers for foods to cut waste when buying in large quantities.
(3) Always take a list when shopping for groceries. Impulse buying can destroy a budget. Post a list where other family members can add items as they are needed. This will eliminate running out of items. If frequently-used items are on sale and can be stored easily, consider buying several at the low price. This way the item will likely last until it is on special again.
(4) Never assume that an item is a great buy just because it is listed in a weekly circular. Many advertised prices have actually been increased and mixed-in with lower priced items. Comparison shop to make sure.
(5) Use coupons. These little pieces of paper are real money and can significantly reduce the total cost of groceries by 50% or more. Learn to collect and organize coupons so that they can be matched to on-sale items for even more savings. Coupon shopping allows families to buy more expensive and better quality items at a lower price than generics.
(6) If possible, shop without children in tow and at hours when stores are not crowded. This helps to eliminate rushed shopping and possible impulse buying. Never shop when hungry for the same reasons.
(7) If you find a great buy on some item in bulk but find that it is more than you can use or store, consider joining with a friend to make the purchase. You will still get the bargain price without the waste.
(8) Forget about store loyalty. Shop where you can find the best bargains for what you need. Traveling a little further or to more than one store will not deplete your food savings. No store runs everything on sale at one time. When Store A runs a special on meat, Store B might be running a sale on canned foods or some other items. Making all purchases at one store could cost you more than you think.
(9) Keep purchases of packaged foods like tv dinners and frozen pizza at a minimum. It takes more time to prepare foods yourself but it is healthier and more economical. Use more fresh fruits and vegetables in daily menus. Try using fruit drinks and fresh juices more often as an alternative to soft drinks. Over time, this will save a great many budget dollars.
(10) Be sure to check your cash register receipt before leaving the store or on the parking lot. Cashiers often make honest mistakes that can cost you money. If you find that you have been overcharged for an item, you are more likely to return for a refund (and more likely to receive it) if you are still at the store or closeby.
Friday, July 25, 2008
Cell phone warning
Variety
Excessive cell phone use may lead to cancer: expert
Excessive use of cell phones may lead to possible health hazards, including cancer, a US expert has warned.
Director of the University of Pittsburgh Cancer Institute, Dr Ronald Herberman issued an advisory to about 3,000 faculty and staff about the possible health risks involved with the use of the gadget.
The director said the evidence is still controversial but he was convinced that there are sufficient data to warrant for an advisory. Several other experts say that the warning is premature as studies have not conclusively proved that excessive use of c ell phone leads to cancer or other disease.
“Recently, I have become aware of the growing body of literature linking long-term cell phone use to possible adverse health effects including cancer,'' Dr Herberman said in the memorandum.
The advisory, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette says, calls for certain measures to limit exposure to electromagnetic radiation emitted by the devices, such as shortening the length of conversations or keeping the phones away from the head by text messaging or usi ng headsets or speaker phone options.
It also recommends that children should not use cell phones except in emergencies.
Excessive cell phone use may lead to cancer: expert
Excessive use of cell phones may lead to possible health hazards, including cancer, a US expert has warned.
Director of the University of Pittsburgh Cancer Institute, Dr Ronald Herberman issued an advisory to about 3,000 faculty and staff about the possible health risks involved with the use of the gadget.
The director said the evidence is still controversial but he was convinced that there are sufficient data to warrant for an advisory. Several other experts say that the warning is premature as studies have not conclusively proved that excessive use of c ell phone leads to cancer or other disease.
“Recently, I have become aware of the growing body of literature linking long-term cell phone use to possible adverse health effects including cancer,'' Dr Herberman said in the memorandum.
The advisory, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette says, calls for certain measures to limit exposure to electromagnetic radiation emitted by the devices, such as shortening the length of conversations or keeping the phones away from the head by text messaging or usi ng headsets or speaker phone options.
It also recommends that children should not use cell phones except in emergencies.
Cell pops corn
YouTube videos that show a group of friends apparently cooking kernels of popcorn with their cellphones have been viewed more than a million times since they were uploaded last week.
The clever parlor trick looks amazing enough, but there's a hitch: It's not physically possible, according to University of Virginia physics professor Louis Bloomfield.
"[The videos] are cute," said Bloomfield in a phone conversation Monday. "But that's never gonna happen."
In a microwave oven, energy excites the water inside popcorn kernels until it turns into highly pressurized gas, causing the kernels to pop. If mobile phones emitted that much energy, the water in the fingers of people holding them would heat up.
"It would hurt like crazy," Bloomfield said. "Cellphones probably warm your tissues, but studies indicate that's not injurious."
Bloomfield, author of How Everything Works: Making Physics Out of the Ordinary, dismissed theories bubbling up in comment threads about the videos that suggest harmonious vibrations are heating the corn.
"Ringing the phones doesn't help because they're interfering with each other and receiving a signal [from a cellphone tower] -- not transmitting it," he said. Furthermore, while it is possible to heat with sound, it's not likely to happen at the low volume emitted by a mobile phone. "It would be like gathering opera singers together to sing, and trying to make the corn pop," Bloomfield said.
So, what's really causing the kernels to ricochet off the table in the YouTube clips? Bloomfield suggests tricky video editing or even a covert heating element beneath the table. Debunker website Snopes.com also points out that cooking popcorn with cellphones is impossible (same goes for eggs).
The popcorn videos, like the slew of YouTube clips showcasing ordinary people performing extraordinary feats that came before them, has the distinct markings of a viral-marketing campaign. Let's look at the facts.
First, all four videos -- French, Japanese and two American editions -- were posted to the YouTube accounts of users bobtel08 and benzin513 (with French descriptions) within several days of one another.
Second, a cryptic bit of commentary posted alongside one of the videos says: "We tried but didn't make it ... maybe only with phone brands or models???" It could be a subtle hint to get viewers to notice the phones more than the stunt. And, indeed, several comments have suggested the phones all appear to be similar makes and models, possibly Nokias or Sony Ericsson mobiles.
For now, however, the clandestine origin of the videos is under wraps. Bobtel08, benzin513 and Nokia did not immediately respond to Wired.com's requests for comment, and a representative from Sony Ericsson North America said he wasn't aware of the videos at all.
The clever parlor trick looks amazing enough, but there's a hitch: It's not physically possible, according to University of Virginia physics professor Louis Bloomfield.
"[The videos] are cute," said Bloomfield in a phone conversation Monday. "But that's never gonna happen."
In a microwave oven, energy excites the water inside popcorn kernels until it turns into highly pressurized gas, causing the kernels to pop. If mobile phones emitted that much energy, the water in the fingers of people holding them would heat up.
"It would hurt like crazy," Bloomfield said. "Cellphones probably warm your tissues, but studies indicate that's not injurious."
Bloomfield, author of How Everything Works: Making Physics Out of the Ordinary, dismissed theories bubbling up in comment threads about the videos that suggest harmonious vibrations are heating the corn.
"Ringing the phones doesn't help because they're interfering with each other and receiving a signal [from a cellphone tower] -- not transmitting it," he said. Furthermore, while it is possible to heat with sound, it's not likely to happen at the low volume emitted by a mobile phone. "It would be like gathering opera singers together to sing, and trying to make the corn pop," Bloomfield said.
So, what's really causing the kernels to ricochet off the table in the YouTube clips? Bloomfield suggests tricky video editing or even a covert heating element beneath the table. Debunker website Snopes.com also points out that cooking popcorn with cellphones is impossible (same goes for eggs).
The popcorn videos, like the slew of YouTube clips showcasing ordinary people performing extraordinary feats that came before them, has the distinct markings of a viral-marketing campaign. Let's look at the facts.
First, all four videos -- French, Japanese and two American editions -- were posted to the YouTube accounts of users bobtel08 and benzin513 (with French descriptions) within several days of one another.
Second, a cryptic bit of commentary posted alongside one of the videos says: "We tried but didn't make it ... maybe only with phone brands or models???" It could be a subtle hint to get viewers to notice the phones more than the stunt. And, indeed, several comments have suggested the phones all appear to be similar makes and models, possibly Nokias or Sony Ericsson mobiles.
For now, however, the clandestine origin of the videos is under wraps. Bobtel08, benzin513 and Nokia did not immediately respond to Wired.com's requests for comment, and a representative from Sony Ericsson North America said he wasn't aware of the videos at all.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Sexy food
Studies show that Zinc, Potassium, Vitamin C, E, and B6, are all vital nutrients for a healthy and vibrant sex life.
Here are ten of the top aphrodisiac foods guaranteed to light your partner's fire:
-- Raw Oysters: This is one of the most popular and well-known "sexy" foods on the aphrodisiac list. High in Zinc, which increases sperm and testosterone production, oysters also contain a hormone called dopamine, which increases libido.
Squeeze some fresh lemon juice onto them for extra zest.
-- Asparagus: Loaded with vitamin E, a key nutrient for a healthy sex life and treating impotence.
-- Eggs: Hard boil them and spread a little caviar on the top, and you have an aphrodisiac bomb that is guaranteed to make waves long after the meal is finished. Eggs are rich in B6 and B5, both crucial for libido and balanced hormone levels.
-- Almonds: Both the smell and nutrient make-up of almonds make these crunchy morsels a "must eat". Full of essential fatty acids, they are particularly important for male hormone production. To get her in the mood, light an almond scented candle during dinner and she will never know what seduced her.
-- Figs: Known as a food fit only for the gods and goddesses, figs are high in amino acids and improve sexual stamina. Flambé fresh figs and serve them over vanilla ice cream with a balsamic reduction-- a sure way to sweeten anyone's mood.
-- Avocados: Avocados are bursting with folic acid, a type of vitamin B that helps turn protein into energy, and potassium that helps boost men and women's libidos.
-- Chili: Spice up your night and get a good hit of vitamin C at the same time, by incorporating some chili into your dinner.
-- Bananas: Packed with bromelain enzymes, potassium and riboflavin, eating one banana a day is guaranteed to keep you energized.
-- Garlic: Perhaps known more as a "turn off" than a "turn on," garlic is actually a very effective aphrodisiac. Garlic contains a potent ingredient called Allicin that increases blood flow and libido. But don't forget to bring the breath mints or you will be sent home early.
-- Chocolate: Finally, what we have all been waiting for, the chocolate! This is the surest way to a women's heart. Nibbling on a piece of dark chocolate immediately produces a chemical called phenylethylamine, which is believed to produce the feeling of "being in love."
Here are ten of the top aphrodisiac foods guaranteed to light your partner's fire:
-- Raw Oysters: This is one of the most popular and well-known "sexy" foods on the aphrodisiac list. High in Zinc, which increases sperm and testosterone production, oysters also contain a hormone called dopamine, which increases libido.
Squeeze some fresh lemon juice onto them for extra zest.
-- Asparagus: Loaded with vitamin E, a key nutrient for a healthy sex life and treating impotence.
-- Eggs: Hard boil them and spread a little caviar on the top, and you have an aphrodisiac bomb that is guaranteed to make waves long after the meal is finished. Eggs are rich in B6 and B5, both crucial for libido and balanced hormone levels.
-- Almonds: Both the smell and nutrient make-up of almonds make these crunchy morsels a "must eat". Full of essential fatty acids, they are particularly important for male hormone production. To get her in the mood, light an almond scented candle during dinner and she will never know what seduced her.
-- Figs: Known as a food fit only for the gods and goddesses, figs are high in amino acids and improve sexual stamina. Flambé fresh figs and serve them over vanilla ice cream with a balsamic reduction-- a sure way to sweeten anyone's mood.
-- Avocados: Avocados are bursting with folic acid, a type of vitamin B that helps turn protein into energy, and potassium that helps boost men and women's libidos.
-- Chili: Spice up your night and get a good hit of vitamin C at the same time, by incorporating some chili into your dinner.
-- Bananas: Packed with bromelain enzymes, potassium and riboflavin, eating one banana a day is guaranteed to keep you energized.
-- Garlic: Perhaps known more as a "turn off" than a "turn on," garlic is actually a very effective aphrodisiac. Garlic contains a potent ingredient called Allicin that increases blood flow and libido. But don't forget to bring the breath mints or you will be sent home early.
-- Chocolate: Finally, what we have all been waiting for, the chocolate! This is the surest way to a women's heart. Nibbling on a piece of dark chocolate immediately produces a chemical called phenylethylamine, which is believed to produce the feeling of "being in love."
In the mood?
(theartofloveandintimacy.com)
Many men are confused and perhaps frustrated at times, wanting their wives to more easily get in the mood for physical intimacy.
The arousal response is different in men and women. It is true that (generally speaking) men and women respond and react differently to various forms of behavior and stimulation.
Women desire physical closeness when they feel loved, adored, appreciated, cared for, desired, and attractive by their partner. Women also are more easily stimulated when they feel sensual, sexy, and attractive as a female.
Knowing this, and gaining information from numerous research studies, it is not difficult to understand why some women are not interested in sex and why some women are more apt to desire physical closeness with their husbands.
Here are ten simple ideas for men, to help women become more interested in physical intimacy. The purpose of this list is not to create a superficial list of things men must do so they can have more sex; it is intended as some ideas to help a relationship become closer and more intimate so the sexual relationship can be a healthy and satisfying one for both partners.
1. Show appreciation - be specific and clear by noticing and expressing your gratitude for her.
2. Be kind, considerate, and compassionate, - noticing and caring for her needs; treat her as you did when you first were in love.
3. Disclose your need for her - be open as you allow yourself to be vulnerable.
4. Notice some specific wonderful traits about her - and share what you notice with your wife.
5. Compliment her for specific things - what is beautiful about your wife? Notice her physical beauty as well as her character, mind, creativity, etc. The more sexy a woman feels the more she is inclined to desire physical intimacy.
6. Tell her how you adore and cherish her - it is often difficult for a woman to want to be intimate when she does not feel important or significant.
7. Help her to feel special in your eyes - what is it that YOU admire and love most?
8. Let her know she is the most important person in your life - women respond best when they feel they are the most significant woman in your life.
9. Be affectionate - in non-sexual ways without an ulterior motive.
10.Express your love - honestly, openly, and deeply.
The key here is to not behave or say things solely for the purpose of getting some action. This list is intended to bring a closeness to the relationship that will ultimately lead to a more healthy and balanced intimate relationship.
There is a fine line between expressing love for the sake of more sex vs. being open and honest and appreciative so the relationship can be more loving and intimate.
Many men are confused and perhaps frustrated at times, wanting their wives to more easily get in the mood for physical intimacy.
The arousal response is different in men and women. It is true that (generally speaking) men and women respond and react differently to various forms of behavior and stimulation.
Women desire physical closeness when they feel loved, adored, appreciated, cared for, desired, and attractive by their partner. Women also are more easily stimulated when they feel sensual, sexy, and attractive as a female.
Knowing this, and gaining information from numerous research studies, it is not difficult to understand why some women are not interested in sex and why some women are more apt to desire physical closeness with their husbands.
Here are ten simple ideas for men, to help women become more interested in physical intimacy. The purpose of this list is not to create a superficial list of things men must do so they can have more sex; it is intended as some ideas to help a relationship become closer and more intimate so the sexual relationship can be a healthy and satisfying one for both partners.
1. Show appreciation - be specific and clear by noticing and expressing your gratitude for her.
2. Be kind, considerate, and compassionate, - noticing and caring for her needs; treat her as you did when you first were in love.
3. Disclose your need for her - be open as you allow yourself to be vulnerable.
4. Notice some specific wonderful traits about her - and share what you notice with your wife.
5. Compliment her for specific things - what is beautiful about your wife? Notice her physical beauty as well as her character, mind, creativity, etc. The more sexy a woman feels the more she is inclined to desire physical intimacy.
6. Tell her how you adore and cherish her - it is often difficult for a woman to want to be intimate when she does not feel important or significant.
7. Help her to feel special in your eyes - what is it that YOU admire and love most?
8. Let her know she is the most important person in your life - women respond best when they feel they are the most significant woman in your life.
9. Be affectionate - in non-sexual ways without an ulterior motive.
10.Express your love - honestly, openly, and deeply.
The key here is to not behave or say things solely for the purpose of getting some action. This list is intended to bring a closeness to the relationship that will ultimately lead to a more healthy and balanced intimate relationship.
There is a fine line between expressing love for the sake of more sex vs. being open and honest and appreciative so the relationship can be more loving and intimate.
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Are you a snoop?
Did you know that a large percentage of guests in your home when in the bathroom, will take a peek inside your medicine cabinets? I've heard different percentages. Some say 40%, some say 7 of 10, I heard one that said 80-90%.
One woman tested this theory by emptying her medicine cabinet, and then refilling it with marbles so that when you opened it up, they all came spilling out.
I'll be cleaning out any embarrassing stuff in my cabinets when guests come over...
Are YOU a snoop?
One woman tested this theory by emptying her medicine cabinet, and then refilling it with marbles so that when you opened it up, they all came spilling out.
I'll be cleaning out any embarrassing stuff in my cabinets when guests come over...
Are YOU a snoop?
Spy on your kids
When protecting their children from internet predators or unsafe behavior, the first step for parents is to get over their fear of monitoring them. Parents must learn how to monitor internet activity. It is a parent's job to protect their children and foster a healthy, safe lifestyle. It is a parent's job to watch over them and be there to correct potential bad decisions that are all too common in a teenager's life. Different parents may choose different degrees of monitoring, but all parents need to deploy some strategy to monitor online behavior. What level of monitoring a parent may choose will depend on the parent, the child, and the relationship. One thing should be clear, it is OK to monitor your children.
Find out more.
Find out more.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Play ball!
With a shot at a three-way tie for first place in the NL East, the Marlins amassed just two hits as they fell to the Braves, 4-0, in Monday's series opener.
Get the latest information on your Florida Marlins.
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Get the latest information on your Florida Marlins.
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Monday, July 21, 2008
Tube dual
I did something really strange, but fun and exciting on my summer vacation in California. Cardboard tube dual fighting. I know it sounds strange, but who hasn't has a sword fight with the cardboard tube from the center of gift wrapping paper? I took me back to my childhood. Only in this league there are rules. Just think the movie "Braveheart". Two teams running toward each other to battle till your tube breaks.
I'd love to start a league here in South Florida. What do you think?
Learn more about it.
I'd love to start a league here in South Florida. What do you think?
Learn more about it.
Holy wad of cash!
Batman has sent Spidey packing as king of Hollywood's box-office superheroes.
"The Dark Knight" took in a record $155.34 million in its first weekend, topping the previous best of $151.1 million for "Spider-Man 3" in May 2007 and pacing Hollywood to its biggest weekend ever, according to studio estimates Sunday.
"We knew it would be big, but we never expected to dominate the marketplace like we did," said Dan Fellman, head of distribution for Warner Bros., which released "The Dark Knight." The movie should shoot past the $200 million mark by the end of the week, he said.
Hollywood set an overall revenue record of $253 million for a three-day weekend, beating the $218.4 million haul over the weekend of July 7, 2006, according to box-office tracker Media By Numbers.
"This weekend is such a juggernaut," said Nikki Rocco, head of distribution for Universal, whose musical "Mamma Mia!" debuted at No. 2 with $27.6 million.
"The Dark Knight" took in a record $155.34 million in its first weekend, topping the previous best of $151.1 million for "Spider-Man 3" in May 2007 and pacing Hollywood to its biggest weekend ever, according to studio estimates Sunday.
"We knew it would be big, but we never expected to dominate the marketplace like we did," said Dan Fellman, head of distribution for Warner Bros., which released "The Dark Knight." The movie should shoot past the $200 million mark by the end of the week, he said.
Hollywood set an overall revenue record of $253 million for a three-day weekend, beating the $218.4 million haul over the weekend of July 7, 2006, according to box-office tracker Media By Numbers.
"This weekend is such a juggernaut," said Nikki Rocco, head of distribution for Universal, whose musical "Mamma Mia!" debuted at No. 2 with $27.6 million.
Friday, July 18, 2008
Diet study
Study: Low-carb diet best for weight, cholesterol
By MIKE STOBBE
The Atkins diet may have proved itself after all: A low-carb diet and a Mediterranean-style regimen helped people lose more weight than a traditional low-fat diet in one of the longest and largest studies to compare the dueling weight-loss techniques.
A bigger surprise: The low-carb diet improved cholesterol more than the other two. Some critics had predicted the opposite.
"It is a vindication," said Abby Bloch of the Dr. Robert C. and Veronica Atkins Foundation, a philanthropy group that honors the Atkins' diet's creator and was the study's main funder.
However, all three approaches — the low-carb diet, a low-fat diet and a so-called Mediterranean diet — achieved weight loss and improved cholesterol.
The study is remarkable not only because it lasted two years, much longer than most, but also because of the huge proportion of people who stuck with the diets — 85 percent.
Read the whole story.
By MIKE STOBBE
The Atkins diet may have proved itself after all: A low-carb diet and a Mediterranean-style regimen helped people lose more weight than a traditional low-fat diet in one of the longest and largest studies to compare the dueling weight-loss techniques.
A bigger surprise: The low-carb diet improved cholesterol more than the other two. Some critics had predicted the opposite.
"It is a vindication," said Abby Bloch of the Dr. Robert C. and Veronica Atkins Foundation, a philanthropy group that honors the Atkins' diet's creator and was the study's main funder.
However, all three approaches — the low-carb diet, a low-fat diet and a so-called Mediterranean diet — achieved weight loss and improved cholesterol.
The study is remarkable not only because it lasted two years, much longer than most, but also because of the huge proportion of people who stuck with the diets — 85 percent.
Read the whole story.
The diet that works for me
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Quick Weight Loss Centers provide you with the support, structure and strategies you need so you can lose your weight quickly, easily and without hunger!
Your individualized program is professionally supervised for the safest results and nutritionally designed to develop proper eating habits for long term success.
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Calm banking fears
Are you worried about your money? Wonder if it's safe in the bank? Check out this site, it may calm you a bit.
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
I-95 Express guide
The former High Occupancy Vehicle (HOV) lane and the newly created Express Lanes are now for long distance trips ONLY.
Once you enter the new Express Lanes
You cannot exit until the end
You cannot cut through the lane markers (delineators) to break out before Golden Glades.
If you find yourself in the Express Lanes by accident, remain calm.
RIDE THROUGH to the Golden Glades Interchange.
If you get confused, DO NOT STOP at any time whether in the general purpose or Express Lanes.
Weaving in and out of the Express Lanes is illegal. Drivers who do
Could cause crashes
Will be subject to fines and incur points on their licenses.
Be alert and pay attention to all advisories, signage, pavement markings and posted speed limits.
Tolling on the Express Lanes will begin soon.
For more information about the purpose of the new 95 Express program and how it works call 1-877-95X-FDOT or 1-877-959 -3368
FDOT is confident that with the improved driver information and with increasing familiarity of the public the Express Lanes will operate smoothly.
Click here for the guidelines.
Once you enter the new Express Lanes
You cannot exit until the end
You cannot cut through the lane markers (delineators) to break out before Golden Glades.
If you find yourself in the Express Lanes by accident, remain calm.
RIDE THROUGH to the Golden Glades Interchange.
If you get confused, DO NOT STOP at any time whether in the general purpose or Express Lanes.
Weaving in and out of the Express Lanes is illegal. Drivers who do
Could cause crashes
Will be subject to fines and incur points on their licenses.
Be alert and pay attention to all advisories, signage, pavement markings and posted speed limits.
Tolling on the Express Lanes will begin soon.
For more information about the purpose of the new 95 Express program and how it works call 1-877-95X-FDOT or 1-877-959 -3368
FDOT is confident that with the improved driver information and with increasing familiarity of the public the Express Lanes will operate smoothly.
Click here for the guidelines.
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Is your job stressful
Quiz: How Stressed Are You?
By Laura Morsch, CareerBuilder.com writer
Maybe you're tired of 60-hour work weeks. Maybe you've been taking on the work (and expectations) of two people since a co-worker quit. Or maybe your company is undergoing a merger, leaving your job security in limbo. Whatever it is, you're just burned out.
If your professional life is leaving you frazzled, you're hardly alone. More than half of workers say they work under a great deal of stress, and 77 percent say they feel burnout on the job, according to a nationwide survey by CareerBuilder.com.
While office stress is common, it can also have dangerous consequences. Chronic workplace stress has been linked to cardiovascular disease, musculoskeletal and psychological disorders, workplace injuries, ulcers and in severe cases, suicide, according to the International Labour Association's Encyclopaedia of Occupational Safety and Health.
Are you experiencing the warning signs of workplace stress? Take this quiz to find out. Select all that apply:
0-5 -- Low Stress:
No work environment is entirely stress-free, but you appear to be managing your tension well. Still, be sure to take time for yourself to avoid burnout.
6-10 -- Low-to-Moderate Stress:
The stress is beginning to catch up with you, but there is still hope. Try relieving some of your tension by taking a relaxing vacation, talking to friends and family or just taking some time to yourself each day. Little steps can make a big impact on your stress levels.
11-15 -- Moderate-to-High Stress:
You're experiencing significant stress levels, and it might be time for a change. Talk to your employer to see if any adjustments can be made in your job or work/life balance that can ease the strain. If that's not possible, it may be time to look for a new position.
16-20 -- High Stress:
High stress levels are harmful both physically and psychologically, so it's important for you to take steps to reduce your workplace tension. Vacations, lifestyle changes or seeking a new position could do the trick, but it may be wise to also speak to a professional who can pinpoint the cause of your stress and identify ways to help you relax.
Your job no longer challenges you.
You have little or no autonomy in your day-to-day tasks.
Apathy has replaced enthusiasm.
You feel overwhelmed by deadline pressure, workload or other expectations.
You frequently arrive late to work and leave early as often as possible.
You consistently put off projects until the last minute.
You're unhappy with your work/life balance.
You have a toxic relationship with your boss.
You're worried about your job security and/or performance.
Your co-workers are walking on eggshells around you.
Your work schedule is interfering with your marriage or other personal relationships.
You're beginning to withdraw from friends and family members.
You're having trouble sleeping.
You're smoking, drinking or relying on caffeine more than ever before.
You're feeling paranoid.
You've been overreacting to minor problems.
You're getting headaches or colds more often.
You're physically exhausted most of the time.
You've developed an ulcer.
You've been diagnosed with a heart condition.
By Laura Morsch, CareerBuilder.com writer
Maybe you're tired of 60-hour work weeks. Maybe you've been taking on the work (and expectations) of two people since a co-worker quit. Or maybe your company is undergoing a merger, leaving your job security in limbo. Whatever it is, you're just burned out.
If your professional life is leaving you frazzled, you're hardly alone. More than half of workers say they work under a great deal of stress, and 77 percent say they feel burnout on the job, according to a nationwide survey by CareerBuilder.com.
While office stress is common, it can also have dangerous consequences. Chronic workplace stress has been linked to cardiovascular disease, musculoskeletal and psychological disorders, workplace injuries, ulcers and in severe cases, suicide, according to the International Labour Association's Encyclopaedia of Occupational Safety and Health.
Are you experiencing the warning signs of workplace stress? Take this quiz to find out. Select all that apply:
0-5 -- Low Stress:
No work environment is entirely stress-free, but you appear to be managing your tension well. Still, be sure to take time for yourself to avoid burnout.
6-10 -- Low-to-Moderate Stress:
The stress is beginning to catch up with you, but there is still hope. Try relieving some of your tension by taking a relaxing vacation, talking to friends and family or just taking some time to yourself each day. Little steps can make a big impact on your stress levels.
11-15 -- Moderate-to-High Stress:
You're experiencing significant stress levels, and it might be time for a change. Talk to your employer to see if any adjustments can be made in your job or work/life balance that can ease the strain. If that's not possible, it may be time to look for a new position.
16-20 -- High Stress:
High stress levels are harmful both physically and psychologically, so it's important for you to take steps to reduce your workplace tension. Vacations, lifestyle changes or seeking a new position could do the trick, but it may be wise to also speak to a professional who can pinpoint the cause of your stress and identify ways to help you relax.
Your job no longer challenges you.
You have little or no autonomy in your day-to-day tasks.
Apathy has replaced enthusiasm.
You feel overwhelmed by deadline pressure, workload or other expectations.
You frequently arrive late to work and leave early as often as possible.
You consistently put off projects until the last minute.
You're unhappy with your work/life balance.
You have a toxic relationship with your boss.
You're worried about your job security and/or performance.
Your co-workers are walking on eggshells around you.
Your work schedule is interfering with your marriage or other personal relationships.
You're beginning to withdraw from friends and family members.
You're having trouble sleeping.
You're smoking, drinking or relying on caffeine more than ever before.
You're feeling paranoid.
You've been overreacting to minor problems.
You're getting headaches or colds more often.
You're physically exhausted most of the time.
You've developed an ulcer.
You've been diagnosed with a heart condition.
Voodoo who?
It's true. It's not enough anymore to simply do your job well. With this current corporate atmosphere, you need the ultimate career-saving tools in your arsenal...VooDoo Dolls ! When brown nosing, backstabbing and typical dirty office politics just won't work any longer, these are the tools that will keep your name off the "pink slip" lists. Then, use them to enhance your career...get promoted, win at job interviews.
Or you could just get a better job. : )
Or you could just get a better job. : )
Monday, July 14, 2008
Romantic vacation tips
Surprise your partner:
Surprise your partner with classy champagne or with vintage wine as you plan to whisper those sweet nothings into his/her ears. Don’t let him/her know about the plan and surprise her with a gift as a memento of the good time. Write “I love you” in different piece of paper and place them in various corners. This is a wonderful tip to add that tinge of romance in your daily life.
A romantic dinner:
Say “love you” to your beloved amidst the crimson hue of the candle flames. Take your partner out for a candle light dinner to one of the expensive restaurants to make your romantic vacation even more peppery. Uncover the thrill of falling in love with your beloved once again and make your romantic vacation a memory to cherish forever.
Write a love letter:
Unfurl your emotion and write a love letter to your beloved. You don’t have to be one literary genius to write a letter to your darling. Set your imagination free; give wings to your dreams and let him/her know how much you love him/her and how very much you are enjoying his/her company during the vacation.
Walk hand in hand:
Have you ever seen a pale moon hanging above the endless, nameless vast field whilst holding his/her hand? Have you ever experienced the splendor of walking barefoot near the waterfront while staring at his/her eyes? Palpate the beat of love whilst enjoying the vacation with your beloved. Do all the things with your love which you have never done before. Walk hand in hand and whisper those honeyed words to his/her ears. This is one of the top 10 tips to spice up your romantic vacation.
Rent a limousine:
Woo your partner. Offer a VIP treatment to your partner on your vacation. Take him/her out for a “limo trip” and explore the city from the back of the limousine whilst sipping champagne together.
Watch movies:
Add some fun and spice in your vacation. Catch a movie with your beloved and make your vacation an unforgettable memory to treasure. How about to rent a video and catch movies like “shall we dance”, “Autumn in New York”, “Pretty woman”, “Shakespeare In Love” together? This is indeed a great tip to spice up your romantic vacation in the most graceful way.
Cook together:
Help him/her in cooking during vacation as this will not only make him/her feel wanted and special but will surely enhance the essence of romance in your love life. Cooking together is a great idea for spending quality time together. Revive your emotion and make your vacation truly romantic.
Give Flowers:
What best can illustrate your love for your special someone than that of the delicate eloquence of the flowers. Make him/her understand how very much you love your beloved on this vacation. Consider giving him/her a bunch of flower to say silently “You mean a lot to me” without mouthing even a word. Add spice in your romantic vacation with the sedulity of the red roses, with the golden smile of the sunflowers and with the purple dreams of the lilacs and start falling in love all over again with your beloved.
Surprise your partner with classy champagne or with vintage wine as you plan to whisper those sweet nothings into his/her ears. Don’t let him/her know about the plan and surprise her with a gift as a memento of the good time. Write “I love you” in different piece of paper and place them in various corners. This is a wonderful tip to add that tinge of romance in your daily life.
A romantic dinner:
Say “love you” to your beloved amidst the crimson hue of the candle flames. Take your partner out for a candle light dinner to one of the expensive restaurants to make your romantic vacation even more peppery. Uncover the thrill of falling in love with your beloved once again and make your romantic vacation a memory to cherish forever.
Write a love letter:
Unfurl your emotion and write a love letter to your beloved. You don’t have to be one literary genius to write a letter to your darling. Set your imagination free; give wings to your dreams and let him/her know how much you love him/her and how very much you are enjoying his/her company during the vacation.
Walk hand in hand:
Have you ever seen a pale moon hanging above the endless, nameless vast field whilst holding his/her hand? Have you ever experienced the splendor of walking barefoot near the waterfront while staring at his/her eyes? Palpate the beat of love whilst enjoying the vacation with your beloved. Do all the things with your love which you have never done before. Walk hand in hand and whisper those honeyed words to his/her ears. This is one of the top 10 tips to spice up your romantic vacation.
Rent a limousine:
Woo your partner. Offer a VIP treatment to your partner on your vacation. Take him/her out for a “limo trip” and explore the city from the back of the limousine whilst sipping champagne together.
Watch movies:
Add some fun and spice in your vacation. Catch a movie with your beloved and make your vacation an unforgettable memory to treasure. How about to rent a video and catch movies like “shall we dance”, “Autumn in New York”, “Pretty woman”, “Shakespeare In Love” together? This is indeed a great tip to spice up your romantic vacation in the most graceful way.
Cook together:
Help him/her in cooking during vacation as this will not only make him/her feel wanted and special but will surely enhance the essence of romance in your love life. Cooking together is a great idea for spending quality time together. Revive your emotion and make your vacation truly romantic.
Give Flowers:
What best can illustrate your love for your special someone than that of the delicate eloquence of the flowers. Make him/her understand how very much you love your beloved on this vacation. Consider giving him/her a bunch of flower to say silently “You mean a lot to me” without mouthing even a word. Add spice in your romantic vacation with the sedulity of the red roses, with the golden smile of the sunflowers and with the purple dreams of the lilacs and start falling in love all over again with your beloved.
Romantic vacation
How to create a romantic vacation.
The first decision is where you want to go on your romantic getaway. If your answer is simply "somewhere romantic," you have more options to consider -- but they're fun options!
Look at a number of potential bed and breakfasts. Don't just make a reservation at the first one that looks romantic. Consider the location, remembering that for a weekend getaway any travel time is usually time not spent being romantic.
Find out if the B&B you're considering offers a special "romance package." Many do, and this can be a very easy way to essentially have your romantic getaway professionally planned. Ask innkeepers questions until you're comfortable you understand exactly what's included in the package and how much it will cost.
Don't cram too much activity into the weekend. Romance and a busy schedule rarely mix.
Ask the innkeeper for cozy, romantic restaurant recommendations and make reservations in advance.
Get other ideas from the innkeeper. They know all about quiet picnic locations, secluded walking paths, and other romantic excursions in the area.
Splurge a little -- get the room with the king-size bed and a Jacuzzi or whirlpool tub.
Bring your own romantic amenities -- scented candles, bubble bath, massage lotion. Be sure to check with the innkeeper to make sure you don't bring anything you're not permitted to use.
Don't hesitate to ask for advice from veterans of romantic getaways. Post a note in our discussion forum or other online discussion groups to see what other travelers suggest.
Tips:
Make the trip a surprise. Take turns planning the trip -- it's great fun for both of you.
Try something new together on your vacation, such as taking a horse riding lesson.
The first decision is where you want to go on your romantic getaway. If your answer is simply "somewhere romantic," you have more options to consider -- but they're fun options!
Look at a number of potential bed and breakfasts. Don't just make a reservation at the first one that looks romantic. Consider the location, remembering that for a weekend getaway any travel time is usually time not spent being romantic.
Find out if the B&B you're considering offers a special "romance package." Many do, and this can be a very easy way to essentially have your romantic getaway professionally planned. Ask innkeepers questions until you're comfortable you understand exactly what's included in the package and how much it will cost.
Don't cram too much activity into the weekend. Romance and a busy schedule rarely mix.
Ask the innkeeper for cozy, romantic restaurant recommendations and make reservations in advance.
Get other ideas from the innkeeper. They know all about quiet picnic locations, secluded walking paths, and other romantic excursions in the area.
Splurge a little -- get the room with the king-size bed and a Jacuzzi or whirlpool tub.
Bring your own romantic amenities -- scented candles, bubble bath, massage lotion. Be sure to check with the innkeeper to make sure you don't bring anything you're not permitted to use.
Don't hesitate to ask for advice from veterans of romantic getaways. Post a note in our discussion forum or other online discussion groups to see what other travelers suggest.
Tips:
Make the trip a surprise. Take turns planning the trip -- it's great fun for both of you.
Try something new together on your vacation, such as taking a horse riding lesson.
Friday, July 4, 2008
Are you citizenship-worthy?
Could you pass the latest citizenship test?
In October, a new version of the U.S. Citizenship Test will be taken by all applicants. The questions are usually selected from a list of 100 samples that prospective citizens can look at ahead of time. Some are easy, some are not.
Try your hand at some of the more difficult ones. And Happy Fourth of July, citizen!
In October, a new version of the U.S. Citizenship Test will be taken by all applicants. The questions are usually selected from a list of 100 samples that prospective citizens can look at ahead of time. Some are easy, some are not.
Try your hand at some of the more difficult ones. And Happy Fourth of July, citizen!
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Hot dog dos and don'ts
DO "dress the dog," not the bun.
DO serve sesame-seed, poppy-seed and plain buns with hot dogs.
DO eat hot dogs on buns with your hands. Utensils should not touch hot dogs on buns.
DO use paper plates to serve hot dogs. Everyday dishes are acceptable; china is a no-no.
DO serve mustard, relish, onions, cheese and chili as topping options.
DO lick off — not wash off — any condiments remaining on the fingers after eating a hot dog.
DO use multicolored toothpicks to serve cocktail wieners. Cocktail forks are in poor taste.
DO put down your hot dog while singing the national anthem.
DON'T put hot-dog toppings between the hot dog and the bun. (Condiments should be applied in the following order: Wet condiments such as mustard and chili are applied first onto the dog, not the bun, followed by chunky condiments such as relish, onions and sauerkraut, followed by shredded cheese, followed by spices such as celery salt or pepper.)
DON'T serve sun-dried tomato buns or basil buns, which are considered gauche with franks.
DON'T serve fresh herbs on the same plate with hot dogs.
DON'T use a cloth napkin to wipe your mouth when eating a hot dog. Paper is always preferable.
DON'T take more than five bites to finish a hot dog. For a foot-long wiener, seven bites are acceptable.
DON'T leave bits of bun on your plate. Eat it all.
DON'T use ketchup on your hot dog after the age of 18.
DON'T send a thank-you note after a hot-dog barbecue. It would not be in keeping with the unpretentious nature of hot dogs.
DON'T take wine to a hot-dog barbecue. Beer, soda, lemonade and iced tea are preferable.
DON'T ever think there is a wrong time to serve hot dogs.
● Adapted from the National Hot Dog and Sausage Council's Hot Dog Etiquette Guide.
DO serve sesame-seed, poppy-seed and plain buns with hot dogs.
DO eat hot dogs on buns with your hands. Utensils should not touch hot dogs on buns.
DO use paper plates to serve hot dogs. Everyday dishes are acceptable; china is a no-no.
DO serve mustard, relish, onions, cheese and chili as topping options.
DO lick off — not wash off — any condiments remaining on the fingers after eating a hot dog.
DO use multicolored toothpicks to serve cocktail wieners. Cocktail forks are in poor taste.
DO put down your hot dog while singing the national anthem.
DON'T put hot-dog toppings between the hot dog and the bun. (Condiments should be applied in the following order: Wet condiments such as mustard and chili are applied first onto the dog, not the bun, followed by chunky condiments such as relish, onions and sauerkraut, followed by shredded cheese, followed by spices such as celery salt or pepper.)
DON'T serve sun-dried tomato buns or basil buns, which are considered gauche with franks.
DON'T serve fresh herbs on the same plate with hot dogs.
DON'T use a cloth napkin to wipe your mouth when eating a hot dog. Paper is always preferable.
DON'T take more than five bites to finish a hot dog. For a foot-long wiener, seven bites are acceptable.
DON'T leave bits of bun on your plate. Eat it all.
DON'T use ketchup on your hot dog after the age of 18.
DON'T send a thank-you note after a hot-dog barbecue. It would not be in keeping with the unpretentious nature of hot dogs.
DON'T take wine to a hot-dog barbecue. Beer, soda, lemonade and iced tea are preferable.
DON'T ever think there is a wrong time to serve hot dogs.
● Adapted from the National Hot Dog and Sausage Council's Hot Dog Etiquette Guide.
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Cut wedding costs
(smartmoney.com)
WANT TO CUT DOWN on your wedding costs, but have nightmares about a roomful of guests picking at iceberg lettuce for dinner? Brides- and grooms-to-be, take comfort: Trimming wedding costs doesn't have to mean foregoing the Plaza suite in favor of Grandma's spare attic bedroom. Wedding consultants around the country told us that there are plenty of ways to nip and tuck the fat in your wedding budget — without your family and friends being any the wiser.
And there's lots of fat to cut. According to Richard Markel, president of the Association for Wedding Professionals International, the average cost of a wedding in the U.S. is now between $21,000 and $24,000. Of course, the costs vary greatly from region to region. He notes that in the elegant suburbs of Long Island, N.Y., the tab routinely reaches $40,000 to $50,000, while "you can have an awesome wedding for $12,000 in Walla Walla, Wash.," he says.
1. Avoid the High Season
In case you haven't noticed, the majority of weddings take place from May through October. So you could save across the board — on limos, photographers and caterers, etc., — by getting married during one of the quieter months, such as January or March, says Carley Roney, editor-in-chief of TheKnot.com, a Web site focused on weddings.
2. Daylight Savings
Wedding consultants all agree: Reception halls charge the highest fees for 7 p.m. on Saturday night. Any other time is guaranteed to be a bargain. "I always encourage brides to consider Sunday brunch," says Mimi Doke, owner of The Wedding Specialist in Arizona. "Or, if late-night drinking is important, then go for Friday evening."
3. Bond With Other Brides
Doke also suggests her clients network with other brides to divvy up the decorating costs at catering halls. "Talk to the bride who is getting married immediately before or after to see if you have similar ideas for decorations," she says. "If so, you might be able to split the cost." Experts say reception halls usually recycle the decorations, but charge every bride for them anyway.
4. Cut the Cake
Another unnecessary reception budget-breaker: overloading on sweets. "People really overspend on desserts," says Marcia French of Stardust Celebrations in Dallas. "They'll get a three-tiered bridal cake, plus a chocolate one for the groom, and have a full tray of desserts at the reception." She points out that after a long evening of eating, drinking and dancing, many guests will forego dessert altogether. For smaller weddings, she recommends using a faux bottom for the lower two tiers of the bridal cake: "It will look good for the pictures, and that's really what matters," she says.
And for bigger weddings, here's another trick: Choose a smaller version of your dream wedding cake and then get sheet cake (in the same flavor as the wedding cake) that can be cut in back and served to guests. They'll never notice!
5. Greens Are Good
And how many of the guests know what kind of flowers are in season at any given time of year? "Stay with what's in season, use more greens and fewer blooms," advises Carol Koch Waldmann, a wedding consultant in Natick, Mass. "No one will ever notice." Roses are always available, but brides should steer clear of floral-intensive holidays such as Mother's Day, when high demand will drive up costs. Another flower tip from Regina Tate of Regina's in Nederland, Texas: Don't feel the need to adorn the church with fresh flowers for the ceremony. "People expect churches to be less ornate, and they'll spend a lot more time at the reception," she says.
6. Dress Down the Gown
Assuming that no one at the wedding will be checking out the tags on your bridal gown, the dress can be another good place to economize. Tate says that cheaper fabrics are almost always available for every dress design, and that using a lower-end satin can cut the cost by almost two-thirds. Sample sales and outlet stores are other good bets, and remember, the gown doesn't need to fit like a glove right away: having a too-large dress fitted will still be cheaper than buying one that's custom-made. For those who favor less complicated designs, consider using this trick from Erin Smith, a bride-to-be in Boston. "I went to a bridal shop and picked out one of their bridesmaid dresses, ordered it in white, and voila — simple wedding dress," she says.
7. Do Yourself a Favor
According to Markel, the average number of wedding guests is 157, which means that overspending on seemingly inexpensive items such as invites and party favors can add up to a big hit on your checkbook. "If you use candy kisses in the favor instead of truffles, you'll save about $3 per bag," French says. Other experts recommend letting place cards double as favors, or incorporating the favors into a creative table centerpiece of chocolates or candles. One bride French knows used assortments of giant, colorful seashells for her centerpieces; guests loved it. Ann Rinke put a small bowl filled with smooth rocks and a live goldfish on each table when she got married last November. The guests were given plastic bags to take the fish home.
8. Save a Tree
Waldmann, who estimates that most brides end up overshooting their initial budget by about 15%, encourages her clients to think twice before spending hundreds of dollars on a seven-piece hand-engraved invite. The invitation liner is completely unnecessary, she says, as are separate enclosure cards. Keeping it to a single sheet, she notes, saves on the costs of both paper and postage.
Of course, talk to wedding consultants, and you'll hear that the No. 1 must-do savings tip is...hire a wedding consultant. In theory, the consultant will do all the legwork for you, shop around for the best bargains, and use their network of vendors to get insider deals. But with some of these pros charging up to 15% of the total wedding budget, we'll leave you to determine if that's a cost-cutting move you want to make.
WANT TO CUT DOWN on your wedding costs, but have nightmares about a roomful of guests picking at iceberg lettuce for dinner? Brides- and grooms-to-be, take comfort: Trimming wedding costs doesn't have to mean foregoing the Plaza suite in favor of Grandma's spare attic bedroom. Wedding consultants around the country told us that there are plenty of ways to nip and tuck the fat in your wedding budget — without your family and friends being any the wiser.
And there's lots of fat to cut. According to Richard Markel, president of the Association for Wedding Professionals International, the average cost of a wedding in the U.S. is now between $21,000 and $24,000. Of course, the costs vary greatly from region to region. He notes that in the elegant suburbs of Long Island, N.Y., the tab routinely reaches $40,000 to $50,000, while "you can have an awesome wedding for $12,000 in Walla Walla, Wash.," he says.
1. Avoid the High Season
In case you haven't noticed, the majority of weddings take place from May through October. So you could save across the board — on limos, photographers and caterers, etc., — by getting married during one of the quieter months, such as January or March, says Carley Roney, editor-in-chief of TheKnot.com, a Web site focused on weddings.
2. Daylight Savings
Wedding consultants all agree: Reception halls charge the highest fees for 7 p.m. on Saturday night. Any other time is guaranteed to be a bargain. "I always encourage brides to consider Sunday brunch," says Mimi Doke, owner of The Wedding Specialist in Arizona. "Or, if late-night drinking is important, then go for Friday evening."
3. Bond With Other Brides
Doke also suggests her clients network with other brides to divvy up the decorating costs at catering halls. "Talk to the bride who is getting married immediately before or after to see if you have similar ideas for decorations," she says. "If so, you might be able to split the cost." Experts say reception halls usually recycle the decorations, but charge every bride for them anyway.
4. Cut the Cake
Another unnecessary reception budget-breaker: overloading on sweets. "People really overspend on desserts," says Marcia French of Stardust Celebrations in Dallas. "They'll get a three-tiered bridal cake, plus a chocolate one for the groom, and have a full tray of desserts at the reception." She points out that after a long evening of eating, drinking and dancing, many guests will forego dessert altogether. For smaller weddings, she recommends using a faux bottom for the lower two tiers of the bridal cake: "It will look good for the pictures, and that's really what matters," she says.
And for bigger weddings, here's another trick: Choose a smaller version of your dream wedding cake and then get sheet cake (in the same flavor as the wedding cake) that can be cut in back and served to guests. They'll never notice!
5. Greens Are Good
And how many of the guests know what kind of flowers are in season at any given time of year? "Stay with what's in season, use more greens and fewer blooms," advises Carol Koch Waldmann, a wedding consultant in Natick, Mass. "No one will ever notice." Roses are always available, but brides should steer clear of floral-intensive holidays such as Mother's Day, when high demand will drive up costs. Another flower tip from Regina Tate of Regina's in Nederland, Texas: Don't feel the need to adorn the church with fresh flowers for the ceremony. "People expect churches to be less ornate, and they'll spend a lot more time at the reception," she says.
6. Dress Down the Gown
Assuming that no one at the wedding will be checking out the tags on your bridal gown, the dress can be another good place to economize. Tate says that cheaper fabrics are almost always available for every dress design, and that using a lower-end satin can cut the cost by almost two-thirds. Sample sales and outlet stores are other good bets, and remember, the gown doesn't need to fit like a glove right away: having a too-large dress fitted will still be cheaper than buying one that's custom-made. For those who favor less complicated designs, consider using this trick from Erin Smith, a bride-to-be in Boston. "I went to a bridal shop and picked out one of their bridesmaid dresses, ordered it in white, and voila — simple wedding dress," she says.
7. Do Yourself a Favor
According to Markel, the average number of wedding guests is 157, which means that overspending on seemingly inexpensive items such as invites and party favors can add up to a big hit on your checkbook. "If you use candy kisses in the favor instead of truffles, you'll save about $3 per bag," French says. Other experts recommend letting place cards double as favors, or incorporating the favors into a creative table centerpiece of chocolates or candles. One bride French knows used assortments of giant, colorful seashells for her centerpieces; guests loved it. Ann Rinke put a small bowl filled with smooth rocks and a live goldfish on each table when she got married last November. The guests were given plastic bags to take the fish home.
8. Save a Tree
Waldmann, who estimates that most brides end up overshooting their initial budget by about 15%, encourages her clients to think twice before spending hundreds of dollars on a seven-piece hand-engraved invite. The invitation liner is completely unnecessary, she says, as are separate enclosure cards. Keeping it to a single sheet, she notes, saves on the costs of both paper and postage.
Of course, talk to wedding consultants, and you'll hear that the No. 1 must-do savings tip is...hire a wedding consultant. In theory, the consultant will do all the legwork for you, shop around for the best bargains, and use their network of vendors to get insider deals. But with some of these pros charging up to 15% of the total wedding budget, we'll leave you to determine if that's a cost-cutting move you want to make.
The cost of a wedding
The high price of wedlock.
In the U.S.~
*In 2007 there were an estimated 2,290,578 weddings
*The average length of an engagement is 17 months
*Average wedding budget is $14,250
*the average spent is $28,800
*Average ages are 26-bride, 28-groom
*average cost of wedding photography is $2373
In the U.S.~
*In 2007 there were an estimated 2,290,578 weddings
*The average length of an engagement is 17 months
*Average wedding budget is $14,250
*the average spent is $28,800
*Average ages are 26-bride, 28-groom
*average cost of wedding photography is $2373
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Heart study
Study: Stem Cells Used To Fix Your Broken Heart
It's Called The Marvel Study
The Largest Clinical Trial Investigating Adult Stem Cells To Treat Congestive Heart Failure
For More Info, Call Jim Moran Heart & Vascular Center At (954) 229-8400
(CBS4)
Doctors are discovering a new way to fix your broken heart. A study is underway in South Florida that could revolutionize the way heart attack patients help their damaged hearts by using their own stem cells.
It's called The Marvel Study and under the direction of Dr. Alan Neiderman with the Jim Moran Heart & Vascular Research Institute at Holy Cross Hospital, is the largest clinical trial investigating adult stem cells to treat congestive heart failure. It involves 330 patients in up to 30 investigational sites in the US and Europe.
"I have a weak heart," said 74-year-old Dennis Piaso who had a heart attack ten years ago and is still suffering from the results, "Lately, I've had a lot of trouble breathing and I constantly lose my breath."
This new procedure could offer Piaso some hope.
Dr. Ahmed Osman, Piaso's doctor at Holy Cross hospital says Piaso will be one of the first in South Florida to be part of a new study using the patient's own stem cells.
"What we do is we would inject these myoblasts or stem cells into the areas that are scarred hoping that this will, these cells will multiply increasing the number and basically help the heart contract more efficiently," said Dr. Osman.
The stem cells are taken from the thigh muscle and injected into the heart so the heart can function better and ultimately become stronger.
Dr. Osman hopes to see improvement in overall heart function within a few weeks to months.
Dr. Alan Niederman, Director of Clinical Research says the preliminary study revealed those hearts injected with the cells showed significant improvement in heart function.
"This is what's known as the pivotal study, if this study is positive they
will go to the FDA to approve this technique as a broad technique that everybody can participate in," said Dr. Neiderman.
"Well for me it's a wonderful opportunity for me to get better and especially it's like getting added years to your life so what more can you want?" said Piaso, who feels like this study is giving him another chance at life.
To qualify for the study, you must be a heart attack survivor, have a defibrillator and an injection fraction less than 35-percent. If you meet the criteria and want more information, call the Jim Moran Heart & Vascular Center at (954) 229-8400.
It's Called The Marvel Study
The Largest Clinical Trial Investigating Adult Stem Cells To Treat Congestive Heart Failure
For More Info, Call Jim Moran Heart & Vascular Center At (954) 229-8400
(CBS4)
Doctors are discovering a new way to fix your broken heart. A study is underway in South Florida that could revolutionize the way heart attack patients help their damaged hearts by using their own stem cells.
It's called The Marvel Study and under the direction of Dr. Alan Neiderman with the Jim Moran Heart & Vascular Research Institute at Holy Cross Hospital, is the largest clinical trial investigating adult stem cells to treat congestive heart failure. It involves 330 patients in up to 30 investigational sites in the US and Europe.
"I have a weak heart," said 74-year-old Dennis Piaso who had a heart attack ten years ago and is still suffering from the results, "Lately, I've had a lot of trouble breathing and I constantly lose my breath."
This new procedure could offer Piaso some hope.
Dr. Ahmed Osman, Piaso's doctor at Holy Cross hospital says Piaso will be one of the first in South Florida to be part of a new study using the patient's own stem cells.
"What we do is we would inject these myoblasts or stem cells into the areas that are scarred hoping that this will, these cells will multiply increasing the number and basically help the heart contract more efficiently," said Dr. Osman.
The stem cells are taken from the thigh muscle and injected into the heart so the heart can function better and ultimately become stronger.
Dr. Osman hopes to see improvement in overall heart function within a few weeks to months.
Dr. Alan Niederman, Director of Clinical Research says the preliminary study revealed those hearts injected with the cells showed significant improvement in heart function.
"This is what's known as the pivotal study, if this study is positive they
will go to the FDA to approve this technique as a broad technique that everybody can participate in," said Dr. Neiderman.
"Well for me it's a wonderful opportunity for me to get better and especially it's like getting added years to your life so what more can you want?" said Piaso, who feels like this study is giving him another chance at life.
To qualify for the study, you must be a heart attack survivor, have a defibrillator and an injection fraction less than 35-percent. If you meet the criteria and want more information, call the Jim Moran Heart & Vascular Center at (954) 229-8400.
Bad neighbors?
Nothing ruins the excitement of finding your dream home quicker than moving in and discovering you have a bad neighbor. Perhaps you have lived in your home for years when the house next door sells and suddenly you find yourself with the neighbor from hell. Maybe they have a loud, barking dog or are prone to Saturday night arguments that wake you from your sleep. Or maybe they simply drop by too often and are overly interested in your personal affairs. Whether your bad neighbors are nosy or noisy, these simple strategies will help you deal with them without joining the ranks of bad neighborhood yourself.
Find out how to recognize and deal with bad neighbors.
Find out how to recognize and deal with bad neighbors.
New laws
New Fla. Laws Take Effect On July 1
Laws deal with education, environmental, and other areas
(CBS4)
The Florida Legislature wrapped up their work several weeks ago, but Tuesday marks the day many new laws will go into effect. Laws governing hurricane insurance, energy and climate change, state spending, and teacher ethics are just some of the new laws.
One of the most controversial laws taking effect on Tuesday allows workers and customers to keep guns in their cars when they are parked in lots owned by private and government employers. After the Supreme Court decision doing away with bans of guns in cities, challengers of the new Florida law face an uphill battle.
U.S. District Judge Robert Hinkle says he will make a ruling over the challenge to the new law in July.
A new law limiting the amount of greenhouse gases power companies in the state produce is part of a cap-and-trade program. It directs state regulators to set up programs that penalize power plants that exceed limits on carbon monoxide emissions.
Another provision of the law will create a commission to help set future energy policy and strengthen green building codes and standards for appliances. It also simplifies the approval process for nuclear power plants.
A hurricane insurance law extends an existing rate freeze for over 1 million customers of Citizens Property Insurance Corp. through the end of 2009. It also gives state regulators more authority over private companies and boosts the amount Citizens can insure up to $2 million.
The state will try to boost the weakened economy by requiring itself to invest up to $137 billion employee pension plan in high-tech industries in the state.
Tuition increases also take effect for community college and university student. And if you're looking for a divorce it'll cost $45 more this year and speeding tickets jump by a minimum of $17.50.
For parents, a new education law reduces the importance of the FCAT in grading high schools. To compensate, the state will include other factors including graduation rates and participation in advanced classes. Elementary and middle schools will still be graded only on FCAT scores.
The education law seeks to cut down on the so-called FCAT frenzy. It bans activities such as rallies and practice tests during regular school hours. It also delays the exam by a month to give students more time to study.
All new motorcyclists will now be required to take a basic rider course. Previously, only riders under 21 were required to pass the course.
Laws deal with education, environmental, and other areas
(CBS4)
The Florida Legislature wrapped up their work several weeks ago, but Tuesday marks the day many new laws will go into effect. Laws governing hurricane insurance, energy and climate change, state spending, and teacher ethics are just some of the new laws.
One of the most controversial laws taking effect on Tuesday allows workers and customers to keep guns in their cars when they are parked in lots owned by private and government employers. After the Supreme Court decision doing away with bans of guns in cities, challengers of the new Florida law face an uphill battle.
U.S. District Judge Robert Hinkle says he will make a ruling over the challenge to the new law in July.
A new law limiting the amount of greenhouse gases power companies in the state produce is part of a cap-and-trade program. It directs state regulators to set up programs that penalize power plants that exceed limits on carbon monoxide emissions.
Another provision of the law will create a commission to help set future energy policy and strengthen green building codes and standards for appliances. It also simplifies the approval process for nuclear power plants.
A hurricane insurance law extends an existing rate freeze for over 1 million customers of Citizens Property Insurance Corp. through the end of 2009. It also gives state regulators more authority over private companies and boosts the amount Citizens can insure up to $2 million.
The state will try to boost the weakened economy by requiring itself to invest up to $137 billion employee pension plan in high-tech industries in the state.
Tuition increases also take effect for community college and university student. And if you're looking for a divorce it'll cost $45 more this year and speeding tickets jump by a minimum of $17.50.
For parents, a new education law reduces the importance of the FCAT in grading high schools. To compensate, the state will include other factors including graduation rates and participation in advanced classes. Elementary and middle schools will still be graded only on FCAT scores.
The education law seeks to cut down on the so-called FCAT frenzy. It bans activities such as rallies and practice tests during regular school hours. It also delays the exam by a month to give students more time to study.
All new motorcyclists will now be required to take a basic rider course. Previously, only riders under 21 were required to pass the course.
Monday, June 30, 2008
Keep your cool
15 Ways To Keep Cool When it's Hot
Medical Author: Melissa Conrad Stöppler, MD
Medical Editor: Dennis Lee, MD
Keeping cool when temperatures reach record highs isn't just about comfort. Dangerously high temperatures can result in heat-related illnesses ranging from heat cramps to heat exhaustion and heat stroke. The following tips can help you keep cool all summer long.
Alter your pattern of outdoor exercise to take advantage of cooler times (early morning or late evening). If you can't change the time of your workout, scale it down by doing fewer minutes, walking instead or running, or decreasing your level of exertion.
Wear loose-fitting clothing, preferably of a light color.
Cotton clothing will keep you cooler than many synthetics.
Fill a spray bottle with water and keep it in the refrigerator for a quick refreshing spray to your face after being outdoors.
Fans can help circulate air and make you feel cooler even in an air-conditioned house.
Try storing lotions or cosmetic toners in the refrigerator to use on hot, overtired feet.
Keep plastic bottles of water in the freezer; grab one when you're ready to go outside. As the ice melts, you'll have a supply of cold water with you.
Take frequent baths or showers with cool or tepid water.
Combat dehydration by drinking plenty of water along with sports drinks or other sources of electrolytes.
Some people swear by small, portable, battery-powered fans. At an outdoor event I even saw a version that attaches to a water bottle that sprays a cooling mist.
I learned this trick from a tennis pro: if you're wearing a cap or hat, remove it and pour a bit of ice cold water into the hat, then quickly invert it and place on your head.
Avoid caffeine and alcohol as these will promote dehydration.
Instead of hot foods, try lighter summer fare including frequent small meals or snacks containing cold fruit or low fat dairy products. As an added benefit, you won't have to cook next to a hot stove.
If you don't have air-conditioning, arrange to spend at least parts of the day in a shopping mall, public library, movie theater, or other public space that is cool. Many cities have cooling centers that are open to the public on sweltering days.
Finally, use common sense. If the heat is intolerable, stay indoors when you can and avoid activities in direct sunlight or on hot asphalt surfaces. Pay special attention to the elderly, infants, and anyone with a chronic illness, as they may dehydrate easily and be more susceptible to heat-related illnesses. Don't forget that pets also need protection from dehydration and heat-related illnesses too.
Medical Author: Melissa Conrad Stöppler, MD
Medical Editor: Dennis Lee, MD
Keeping cool when temperatures reach record highs isn't just about comfort. Dangerously high temperatures can result in heat-related illnesses ranging from heat cramps to heat exhaustion and heat stroke. The following tips can help you keep cool all summer long.
Alter your pattern of outdoor exercise to take advantage of cooler times (early morning or late evening). If you can't change the time of your workout, scale it down by doing fewer minutes, walking instead or running, or decreasing your level of exertion.
Wear loose-fitting clothing, preferably of a light color.
Cotton clothing will keep you cooler than many synthetics.
Fill a spray bottle with water and keep it in the refrigerator for a quick refreshing spray to your face after being outdoors.
Fans can help circulate air and make you feel cooler even in an air-conditioned house.
Try storing lotions or cosmetic toners in the refrigerator to use on hot, overtired feet.
Keep plastic bottles of water in the freezer; grab one when you're ready to go outside. As the ice melts, you'll have a supply of cold water with you.
Take frequent baths or showers with cool or tepid water.
Combat dehydration by drinking plenty of water along with sports drinks or other sources of electrolytes.
Some people swear by small, portable, battery-powered fans. At an outdoor event I even saw a version that attaches to a water bottle that sprays a cooling mist.
I learned this trick from a tennis pro: if you're wearing a cap or hat, remove it and pour a bit of ice cold water into the hat, then quickly invert it and place on your head.
Avoid caffeine and alcohol as these will promote dehydration.
Instead of hot foods, try lighter summer fare including frequent small meals or snacks containing cold fruit or low fat dairy products. As an added benefit, you won't have to cook next to a hot stove.
If you don't have air-conditioning, arrange to spend at least parts of the day in a shopping mall, public library, movie theater, or other public space that is cool. Many cities have cooling centers that are open to the public on sweltering days.
Finally, use common sense. If the heat is intolerable, stay indoors when you can and avoid activities in direct sunlight or on hot asphalt surfaces. Pay special attention to the elderly, infants, and anyone with a chronic illness, as they may dehydrate easily and be more susceptible to heat-related illnesses. Don't forget that pets also need protection from dehydration and heat-related illnesses too.
Ice bandana
Another way to keep cool this summer is with an ice bandana. You can freeze it and re-freeze it over and over.
Gas for life
The Florida Lottery is trying to tap the public frustration with sky-high gas prices. The Lottery;s 8 week "Summer Cash" drawing starts today. "Gas for Life" and "Gas for a Year" are among the prizes. Tickets cost 5 dollars and the grand prize is $250,000.
Friday, June 27, 2008
Never buy this stuff used
10 Things You Should Never Buy Used
1. Children’s Car Seats: Car seats have expiration dates, and if the vehicle has been in an accident (even a fender bender), the seat should be thrown out.
2. Helmets: They can crack on impact.
3. Electronics:
4. Laptops: Because they’re mobile, they can be dropped, spilled on, or otherwise abused.
5. Plasma Televisions:
6. DVD Players: Lasers wear out
7. Camcorders: Are often dropped, and have motors that wear out.
8. Mattresses: As one expert said, “Think about what you do on yours, and then you’ll know why you won’t want to sleep on someone elses.”
9: Vacuum Cleaners
10: Shoes
1. Children’s Car Seats: Car seats have expiration dates, and if the vehicle has been in an accident (even a fender bender), the seat should be thrown out.
2. Helmets: They can crack on impact.
3. Electronics:
4. Laptops: Because they’re mobile, they can be dropped, spilled on, or otherwise abused.
5. Plasma Televisions:
6. DVD Players: Lasers wear out
7. Camcorders: Are often dropped, and have motors that wear out.
8. Mattresses: As one expert said, “Think about what you do on yours, and then you’ll know why you won’t want to sleep on someone elses.”
9: Vacuum Cleaners
10: Shoes
Have a garage sale
There are secrets to having a successful yard or garage sale. The best yard sales require lots of work, but it's worth it when you count your profits at the end of the day. Follow these few steps to create a yard sale that attracts people and leaves you with some cash.
Step 1 Decide if you have enough items to hold a yard sale (the more the better).
Step 2 Choose a date.
Step 3 Move all of your yard sale items into one place, such as the garage or a storage area.
Step 4 Put a price tag on everything, no matter how small.
Step 5 Decide how you will set the sale up. Be sure all items will be openly
displayed so that people don't have to dig through boxes to find things.
Step 6 Call your local newspaper about a week before the yard sale, and buy an ad that will appear the day before and the day of the sale. The ad should contain your address, the date and hours of your sale, and a summary list of what you have to offer.
Step 7 Arrange all items on tables or whatever you are going to display them on the day before the sale. Keep the table in the garage or storage area overnight.
Step 8 Go to the bank and get $50 in $1s, $5s, and change.
Step 9 Put the money in a cash box.
Step 10 Place signs around your neighborhood on the morning of the sale advertising the sale and giving the address.
Step 11 Open the garage door at the specified hour and move the tables out.
Step 1 Decide if you have enough items to hold a yard sale (the more the better).
Step 2 Choose a date.
Step 3 Move all of your yard sale items into one place, such as the garage or a storage area.
Step 4 Put a price tag on everything, no matter how small.
Step 5 Decide how you will set the sale up. Be sure all items will be openly
displayed so that people don't have to dig through boxes to find things.
Step 6 Call your local newspaper about a week before the yard sale, and buy an ad that will appear the day before and the day of the sale. The ad should contain your address, the date and hours of your sale, and a summary list of what you have to offer.
Step 7 Arrange all items on tables or whatever you are going to display them on the day before the sale. Keep the table in the garage or storage area overnight.
Step 8 Go to the bank and get $50 in $1s, $5s, and change.
Step 9 Put the money in a cash box.
Step 10 Place signs around your neighborhood on the morning of the sale advertising the sale and giving the address.
Step 11 Open the garage door at the specified hour and move the tables out.
Gems at estate sales
Baron Estate Sales has over 20 years of experience in the appraisal, sale, and marketing of secondhand items. The saying, "One man's junk is another man's treasure" never becomes more apparent than when evaluating items for sale. The old print that you thought was worthless may actually be a painting under glass by a listed artist. The flower pot on the back porch may actually be an artist signed vase by one of the famous pottery makers from the early 20th century.
Find out more about Baron Estate Sales.
Find out more about Baron Estate Sales.
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Teen drinking
Dangers of Teen Drinking
Teens don't just drink. They drink to excess.
More than 10 percent of eighth graders, 22 percent of sophomores, and 26 percent of seniors report recent binge drinking (5+ drinks on the same occasion).
Statistics show that the majority of current teen drinkers got drunk in the previous month. That includes 54 percent of the high school sophomores who drink and 65 percent of the high school seniors who drink.
Underage drinking is linked to injury and risky behavior.
Reducing underage drinking can reduce drinking-related harm.
Brain Development and Alcohol Abuse
Research indicates that the human brain continues to develop into a person's early 20's, and that exposure of the developing brain to alcohol may have long-lasting effects on intellectual capabilities and may increase the likelihood of alcohol addiction.
The age when drinking starts affects future drinking problems. For each year that the start of drinking is delayed, the risk of later alcohol dependence is reduced by 14 percent.
Drinking and Driving
Car crashes are the leading cause of death among people ages 15 to 20. About 1,900 people under 21 die every year from car crashes involving underage drinking.
Young people are more susceptible to alcohol-induced impairment of their driving skills. Drinking drivers aged 16 to 20 are twice as likely to be involved in a fatal crash as drinking drivers who are 21 or older.
Suicide
Alcohol use interacts with conditions like depression and stress, and contributes to an estimated 300 teen suicides a year.
High school students who drink are twice as likely to have seriously considered attempting suicide, as compared to nondrinkers. High school students who binge drink are four times as likely to have attempted suicide, as compared to nondrinkers.
Sexual Behavior
Current teen drinkers are more than twice as likely to have had sexual intercourse within the past three months than teens who don't drink.
Higher drinking levels increase the likelihood of sexual activity.
Adolescents who drink are more likely to engage in risky sexual activities, like having sex with someone they don't know or failing to use birth control.
Other Risks
Teens who drink alcohol are more likely than nondrinkers to smoke marijuana, use inhalants, or carry a weapon.
Binge drinking substantially increases the likelihood of these activities.
Academic Performance
A government study published in 2007 shows a relationship between binge drinking and grades. Approximately two-thirds of students with “mostly A’s” are non-drinkers, while nearly half of the students with “mostly D’s and F’s” report binge drinking. It is not clear, however, whether academic failure leads to drinking, or vice versa.
For further information on the risks of adolescent alcohol use, visit the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism.
Don't serve alcohol to teens.
It's unsafe. It's illegal. It's irresponsible.
Teens don't just drink. They drink to excess.
More than 10 percent of eighth graders, 22 percent of sophomores, and 26 percent of seniors report recent binge drinking (5+ drinks on the same occasion).
Statistics show that the majority of current teen drinkers got drunk in the previous month. That includes 54 percent of the high school sophomores who drink and 65 percent of the high school seniors who drink.
Underage drinking is linked to injury and risky behavior.
Reducing underage drinking can reduce drinking-related harm.
Brain Development and Alcohol Abuse
Research indicates that the human brain continues to develop into a person's early 20's, and that exposure of the developing brain to alcohol may have long-lasting effects on intellectual capabilities and may increase the likelihood of alcohol addiction.
The age when drinking starts affects future drinking problems. For each year that the start of drinking is delayed, the risk of later alcohol dependence is reduced by 14 percent.
Drinking and Driving
Car crashes are the leading cause of death among people ages 15 to 20. About 1,900 people under 21 die every year from car crashes involving underage drinking.
Young people are more susceptible to alcohol-induced impairment of their driving skills. Drinking drivers aged 16 to 20 are twice as likely to be involved in a fatal crash as drinking drivers who are 21 or older.
Suicide
Alcohol use interacts with conditions like depression and stress, and contributes to an estimated 300 teen suicides a year.
High school students who drink are twice as likely to have seriously considered attempting suicide, as compared to nondrinkers. High school students who binge drink are four times as likely to have attempted suicide, as compared to nondrinkers.
Sexual Behavior
Current teen drinkers are more than twice as likely to have had sexual intercourse within the past three months than teens who don't drink.
Higher drinking levels increase the likelihood of sexual activity.
Adolescents who drink are more likely to engage in risky sexual activities, like having sex with someone they don't know or failing to use birth control.
Other Risks
Teens who drink alcohol are more likely than nondrinkers to smoke marijuana, use inhalants, or carry a weapon.
Binge drinking substantially increases the likelihood of these activities.
Academic Performance
A government study published in 2007 shows a relationship between binge drinking and grades. Approximately two-thirds of students with “mostly A’s” are non-drinkers, while nearly half of the students with “mostly D’s and F’s” report binge drinking. It is not clear, however, whether academic failure leads to drinking, or vice versa.
For further information on the risks of adolescent alcohol use, visit the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism.
Don't serve alcohol to teens.
It's unsafe. It's illegal. It's irresponsible.
Stay out of the water
(Miami Herald)
No-swim warning at 12 Dade beaches
BY JENNIFER LEBOVICH AND MALKA ABRAMOFF
Swimmers were advised to stay out of the ocean from Golden Beach to Matheson Hammock on Wednesday after health officials discovered bacteria levels exceeding state standards at 12 Miami-Dade beaches.
The no-swim advisory came after more beaches failed the bacteria indicator test than at any time since the county joined the state's beach monitoring program in 2002.
Swimming in the water can increase risk of gastrointestinal illness, including vomiting or intestinal pain, and ear and eye infections, said Samir Elmir, environmental administrator for the Miami-Dade County Health Department.
''It's the biggest advisory I can remember,'' Elmir said. ``In general our beaches are clean.''
Additional water tests were performed on Wednesday, and the county will review the results Thursday to decide whether to keep the advisories.
No warnings were issued in Broward County.
Tests performed Monday measured two bacteria indicators -- fecal coliform and enterococci -- both found in human and animal waste. Fecal coliform levels were elevated and were retested on Tuesday. Enterococci levels were not elevated.
There's no reason to believe the higher levels are from a sewage leak, Elmir said.
Instead, the recent heavy rains and winds are the likely culprit.
''We think that the severe weather conditions . . . and storm water runoff may be the contributing factor for this condition,'' Elmir said. ``We don't have a report to indicate beach pollution at those sites in terms of sewage spills or overflows.''
At 21st Street in Miami Beach, where levels were up, lifeguards warned people to stay out of the water. But a wind-whipped afternoon prompted surfers and kiteboarders to ignore the advisory and hit the waves anyway.
Yoaritt Sienfuegos, who came from Tampa to windsurf, said he'd try to avoid falling in or getting any water in his mouth.
''I'm just going to go in,'' said Sienfuegos, 20. ``It doesn't matter if I get sick. I came here to surf.''
Others, like bather Jenara Nerenberg, didn't know about the advisory. Toweling off on the beach, she was unhappy to hear the news.
''I feel gross swallowing the water,'' she said. ``It makes me a little concerned.''
Sewage contains hundreds of potential pathogens in the forms of bacteria, cysts and spores. Water quality tests measure fecal coliform and enterococci, which scientists consider classic ''indicators'' of human waste.
The organisms, which normally inhabit the intestine, aren't harmful themselves, but elevated levels could signal the presence of more dangerous bugs.
The water is tested weekly at 19 Miami-Dade beach sites from Golden Beach to Florida City, Elmir said.
A no-swim advisory was issued at Golden Beach, Sunny Isles Beach Pier Park, Oleta Park-Swimming Area, Haulover Beach Park, 93rd Street in Surfside, 74th Street Beach, 53rd Street Beach, 21st Street Beach, South Pointe Park (First Street Beach), Hobie/Dog Beach, Crandon Park Beach and Matheson Hammock.
Key Biscayne Beach and Cape Florida Park avoided the warning.
A dozen sites failed at least one test Monday and Tuesday.
''To be getting positive readings to that extent running that stretch of the beach, that's a new one,'' said T.J. Marshall, coordinator for the Florida Coastal and Ocean Coalition, a group of nonprofits working on coastal and marine issues. ``It is something people should take seriously.''
Miami Herald staff writer Curtis Morgan contributed to this report.
No-swim warning at 12 Dade beaches
BY JENNIFER LEBOVICH AND MALKA ABRAMOFF
Swimmers were advised to stay out of the ocean from Golden Beach to Matheson Hammock on Wednesday after health officials discovered bacteria levels exceeding state standards at 12 Miami-Dade beaches.
The no-swim advisory came after more beaches failed the bacteria indicator test than at any time since the county joined the state's beach monitoring program in 2002.
Swimming in the water can increase risk of gastrointestinal illness, including vomiting or intestinal pain, and ear and eye infections, said Samir Elmir, environmental administrator for the Miami-Dade County Health Department.
''It's the biggest advisory I can remember,'' Elmir said. ``In general our beaches are clean.''
Additional water tests were performed on Wednesday, and the county will review the results Thursday to decide whether to keep the advisories.
No warnings were issued in Broward County.
Tests performed Monday measured two bacteria indicators -- fecal coliform and enterococci -- both found in human and animal waste. Fecal coliform levels were elevated and were retested on Tuesday. Enterococci levels were not elevated.
There's no reason to believe the higher levels are from a sewage leak, Elmir said.
Instead, the recent heavy rains and winds are the likely culprit.
''We think that the severe weather conditions . . . and storm water runoff may be the contributing factor for this condition,'' Elmir said. ``We don't have a report to indicate beach pollution at those sites in terms of sewage spills or overflows.''
At 21st Street in Miami Beach, where levels were up, lifeguards warned people to stay out of the water. But a wind-whipped afternoon prompted surfers and kiteboarders to ignore the advisory and hit the waves anyway.
Yoaritt Sienfuegos, who came from Tampa to windsurf, said he'd try to avoid falling in or getting any water in his mouth.
''I'm just going to go in,'' said Sienfuegos, 20. ``It doesn't matter if I get sick. I came here to surf.''
Others, like bather Jenara Nerenberg, didn't know about the advisory. Toweling off on the beach, she was unhappy to hear the news.
''I feel gross swallowing the water,'' she said. ``It makes me a little concerned.''
Sewage contains hundreds of potential pathogens in the forms of bacteria, cysts and spores. Water quality tests measure fecal coliform and enterococci, which scientists consider classic ''indicators'' of human waste.
The organisms, which normally inhabit the intestine, aren't harmful themselves, but elevated levels could signal the presence of more dangerous bugs.
The water is tested weekly at 19 Miami-Dade beach sites from Golden Beach to Florida City, Elmir said.
A no-swim advisory was issued at Golden Beach, Sunny Isles Beach Pier Park, Oleta Park-Swimming Area, Haulover Beach Park, 93rd Street in Surfside, 74th Street Beach, 53rd Street Beach, 21st Street Beach, South Pointe Park (First Street Beach), Hobie/Dog Beach, Crandon Park Beach and Matheson Hammock.
Key Biscayne Beach and Cape Florida Park avoided the warning.
A dozen sites failed at least one test Monday and Tuesday.
''To be getting positive readings to that extent running that stretch of the beach, that's a new one,'' said T.J. Marshall, coordinator for the Florida Coastal and Ocean Coalition, a group of nonprofits working on coastal and marine issues. ``It is something people should take seriously.''
Miami Herald staff writer Curtis Morgan contributed to this report.
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Get a pet for your health
Having a pet can, at times, test your patience, particularly when Fido has chewed up your expensive new boots, or Snowball decides to meow up a storm at 4 a.m. Still, most pet owners will agree wholeheartedly that pets give back much more than they receive in the form of companionship and love.
Indeed, the United States is a pet-loving nation, having more dogs and cats than any other country, according to the American Veterinary Medical Association. Most pet owners treat their pet like any other member of the family, perhaps even giving them special birthday and holiday presents and foods.
But here is another reason to spoil your pet (as though you needed one): Owning a pet can actually improve the health of its owner.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), having a pet can decrease your:
Blood pressure
Cholesterol levels
Triglyceride levels
Feelings of loneliness
But that's not all. K.C. Cole, RN, MN, director of UCLA's People-Animal Connection (PAC), says she believes the human-animal bond offers many social, psychological and physiological benefits. PAC volunteers bring dogs to visit about 400 hospital patients each month.
"Among other things, animals contribute to raising self-esteem, significantly lowering anxiety levels, improving attitude toward others and opening lines of communication," Cole said. "With geriatric patients we see a bridge of communication develop with staff and family when a dog visits."
Pets and Your Heart
Perhaps the most notable benefit has to do with heart health. Several studies have found that people who have had a heart attack survive longer with a pet than without.
Another study, by Karen Allen, PhD, a medical researcher at the University of Buffalo, involved 48 stockbrokers with high blood pressure. Those who owned a cat or dog had lower blood pressure readings in stressful situations than those without.
"When we told the group that didn't have pets about the findings, many went out and got them," Allen said.
Recovery After Illness
Other studies have found that people with pets tend to have a speedier, easier recovery after illness or surgery. One UK study of 50-60-year-old women recovering from breast cancer, for instance, found:
87 percent reported that their pets filled "at least one important role in their social support."
43 percent reported that their pets fulfilled more than 10 important support functions, such as being cared for, tactile comfort, and still feeling included socially, when they took their dog for a walk.
Kids and Pets
Many of us have fond memories of our first childhood pet, and as it turns out, pets are just as good for kids as they are for the elderly and adults. One five-year study of 600 children aged 3-18 found that children with pets who are slow learners, or whose parents had divorced, had higher levels of self-esteem and better emotional functioning than those with no pet.
Children with autism and other learning and behavioral disabilities also often show immediate improvement when pets are brought into the classroom for animal-assisted therapy.
Further, kids who have a cat or dog in the home during their first years of life are less likely to develop hay fever, asthma and animal-related allergies than those who don't.
Better Overall Health
Research presented at the 10th International Conference on Human Animal Interaction in October 2004 found that pet owners simply experience better health than non pet-owners. The survey of more than 11,000 Australians, Chinese and Germans found that over a five-year period:
Pet owners made 15-20 percent fewer annual visits to the doctor than non pet-owners.
Those who went to the doctor the least were those who continuously owned a pet.
The next healthiest group was people who got a pet during the study.
If you're still not convinced of the benefits of pet ownership, other studies have found these additional health improvements to pet owners:
Reduced depression
Less stress
Improved exercise habits
Better quality of life for those with Alzheimer's or orthopedic disorders
A Dog, Cat, Bird ... or Dolphin?
So which types of pets provide the most health benefits? Most commonly, dogs and cats are mentioned in the studies. However, any animal has the potential to brighten your life.
Case in point, a study in a November 2005 British Medical Journal found that people with depression who swam with dolphins for an hour a day for two weeks reported feeling less depressed than those who simply frolicked in the water.
But if you're looking for the most benefit, a pet of your own (after careful consideration) may be the best route to take. Said Mara Baun, D.N.Sc., professor at The University of Texas School of Nursing at Houston, "People derive the greatest health benefits from their own pet, or one to whom they feel some personal attachment.
Indeed, the United States is a pet-loving nation, having more dogs and cats than any other country, according to the American Veterinary Medical Association. Most pet owners treat their pet like any other member of the family, perhaps even giving them special birthday and holiday presents and foods.
But here is another reason to spoil your pet (as though you needed one): Owning a pet can actually improve the health of its owner.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), having a pet can decrease your:
Blood pressure
Cholesterol levels
Triglyceride levels
Feelings of loneliness
But that's not all. K.C. Cole, RN, MN, director of UCLA's People-Animal Connection (PAC), says she believes the human-animal bond offers many social, psychological and physiological benefits. PAC volunteers bring dogs to visit about 400 hospital patients each month.
"Among other things, animals contribute to raising self-esteem, significantly lowering anxiety levels, improving attitude toward others and opening lines of communication," Cole said. "With geriatric patients we see a bridge of communication develop with staff and family when a dog visits."
Pets and Your Heart
Perhaps the most notable benefit has to do with heart health. Several studies have found that people who have had a heart attack survive longer with a pet than without.
Another study, by Karen Allen, PhD, a medical researcher at the University of Buffalo, involved 48 stockbrokers with high blood pressure. Those who owned a cat or dog had lower blood pressure readings in stressful situations than those without.
"When we told the group that didn't have pets about the findings, many went out and got them," Allen said.
Recovery After Illness
Other studies have found that people with pets tend to have a speedier, easier recovery after illness or surgery. One UK study of 50-60-year-old women recovering from breast cancer, for instance, found:
87 percent reported that their pets filled "at least one important role in their social support."
43 percent reported that their pets fulfilled more than 10 important support functions, such as being cared for, tactile comfort, and still feeling included socially, when they took their dog for a walk.
Kids and Pets
Many of us have fond memories of our first childhood pet, and as it turns out, pets are just as good for kids as they are for the elderly and adults. One five-year study of 600 children aged 3-18 found that children with pets who are slow learners, or whose parents had divorced, had higher levels of self-esteem and better emotional functioning than those with no pet.
Children with autism and other learning and behavioral disabilities also often show immediate improvement when pets are brought into the classroom for animal-assisted therapy.
Further, kids who have a cat or dog in the home during their first years of life are less likely to develop hay fever, asthma and animal-related allergies than those who don't.
Better Overall Health
Research presented at the 10th International Conference on Human Animal Interaction in October 2004 found that pet owners simply experience better health than non pet-owners. The survey of more than 11,000 Australians, Chinese and Germans found that over a five-year period:
Pet owners made 15-20 percent fewer annual visits to the doctor than non pet-owners.
Those who went to the doctor the least were those who continuously owned a pet.
The next healthiest group was people who got a pet during the study.
If you're still not convinced of the benefits of pet ownership, other studies have found these additional health improvements to pet owners:
Reduced depression
Less stress
Improved exercise habits
Better quality of life for those with Alzheimer's or orthopedic disorders
A Dog, Cat, Bird ... or Dolphin?
So which types of pets provide the most health benefits? Most commonly, dogs and cats are mentioned in the studies. However, any animal has the potential to brighten your life.
Case in point, a study in a November 2005 British Medical Journal found that people with depression who swam with dolphins for an hour a day for two weeks reported feeling less depressed than those who simply frolicked in the water.
But if you're looking for the most benefit, a pet of your own (after careful consideration) may be the best route to take. Said Mara Baun, D.N.Sc., professor at The University of Texas School of Nursing at Houston, "People derive the greatest health benefits from their own pet, or one to whom they feel some personal attachment.
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
Bank of dad, co-worker, friend
Borrowing Money From Family Members – Is this A Wise Way to Pay off Debt?
(moms-living-debt-free.com)
Borrowing money from family members or relatives may seem like an easy way to pay off credit card debt or student loans. Why? You may feel like families ought to look out for each other, and be attracted to the idea of a lower payment or interest rate. Should you borrow money from family to pay off debt?
In my opinion, the clear answer is no, unless it is your only option. Exhaust all other options first, and make borrowing money from family a last resort.
First, remember that family members may have unwritten “strings” attached to their lending you money. Mom and Dad may be happy to help you pay off your debt, but be prepared for guilt trips later on. Example: “How could you not come over on Saturday? Didn’t we just lend you $10,000 to pay off your student loans?” Why make family relationships tense over money if you do not have to?
Secondly, something may happen that prevents you from paying the money back on time. Imagine your relative’s reaction if they are unable to receive their payment when it is due. And the last thing anyone feels like doing is groveling to a friend or family member. What if you have a job loss? Do you really want to have to let your family know right away about your lay-off or a possible move/career change? These are all things you need to consider before borrowing the money.
If you do decide to borrow money from a relative, have a written legal agreement, signed by both parties. Make it as formal as possible, including payments, interest rates, and terms of the loan. Have it composed by a lawyer, and make sure the agreement states that there are no “unwritten” strings attached to the loan. Then, treat the loan with the same seriousness as you would a bank loan.
Finally, think about whether or not your relationship with your family is worth the risk of borrowing money. I have heard many horror stories over the years about family loans gone bad, and relatives no longer speaking to each other.
I would highly recommend that rather than borrowing money from family members, you seek out another loan source.
(moms-living-debt-free.com)
Borrowing money from family members or relatives may seem like an easy way to pay off credit card debt or student loans. Why? You may feel like families ought to look out for each other, and be attracted to the idea of a lower payment or interest rate. Should you borrow money from family to pay off debt?
In my opinion, the clear answer is no, unless it is your only option. Exhaust all other options first, and make borrowing money from family a last resort.
First, remember that family members may have unwritten “strings” attached to their lending you money. Mom and Dad may be happy to help you pay off your debt, but be prepared for guilt trips later on. Example: “How could you not come over on Saturday? Didn’t we just lend you $10,000 to pay off your student loans?” Why make family relationships tense over money if you do not have to?
Secondly, something may happen that prevents you from paying the money back on time. Imagine your relative’s reaction if they are unable to receive their payment when it is due. And the last thing anyone feels like doing is groveling to a friend or family member. What if you have a job loss? Do you really want to have to let your family know right away about your lay-off or a possible move/career change? These are all things you need to consider before borrowing the money.
If you do decide to borrow money from a relative, have a written legal agreement, signed by both parties. Make it as formal as possible, including payments, interest rates, and terms of the loan. Have it composed by a lawyer, and make sure the agreement states that there are no “unwritten” strings attached to the loan. Then, treat the loan with the same seriousness as you would a bank loan.
Finally, think about whether or not your relationship with your family is worth the risk of borrowing money. I have heard many horror stories over the years about family loans gone bad, and relatives no longer speaking to each other.
I would highly recommend that rather than borrowing money from family members, you seek out another loan source.
Monday, June 23, 2008
Casino games for dummies
Bet wisely, beat the house, and bring home the bucks!
Crazy about casinos, but worried about losing your shirt? Relax! This hands-on guide is filled with insider secrets and tips for maximizing winnings and minimizing losses in the most popular casino games --blackjack, poker, craps, roulette, slots, and more. You get the scoop on everything from game rules and jargon to making the best bets (and knowing when to quit).
Discover how to
* Understand the odds
* Develop winning strategies
* Avoid gimmicks and bad bets
* Manage your money effectively
* Gamble on the Internet
* Deal with the IRS
Crazy about casinos, but worried about losing your shirt? Relax! This hands-on guide is filled with insider secrets and tips for maximizing winnings and minimizing losses in the most popular casino games --blackjack, poker, craps, roulette, slots, and more. You get the scoop on everything from game rules and jargon to making the best bets (and knowing when to quit).
Discover how to
* Understand the odds
* Develop winning strategies
* Avoid gimmicks and bad bets
* Manage your money effectively
* Gamble on the Internet
* Deal with the IRS
Friday, June 20, 2008
Sleep apnea is serious
Hey Susan,
Love listening to you. Just wanted to mention something. A caller reported falling asleep while driving. Although it may sound funny, it could be something quite serious. Many people suffer from sleep apnea which prevents you from breathing while sleeping. Most aren’t aware of it and think they just snore really badly. The result is bouts of unexplained tiredness during the day or no control over falling asleep.
More info can be found this site.
Hope this is helpful!
John
********************************************************
Dear John,
Yes, I'll post it on my blog....thanks for listening. My dad has sleep apnea and had surgery to fix it so I know how that can be.
Suzzzzzan
Love listening to you. Just wanted to mention something. A caller reported falling asleep while driving. Although it may sound funny, it could be something quite serious. Many people suffer from sleep apnea which prevents you from breathing while sleeping. Most aren’t aware of it and think they just snore really badly. The result is bouts of unexplained tiredness during the day or no control over falling asleep.
More info can be found this site.
Hope this is helpful!
John
********************************************************
Dear John,
Yes, I'll post it on my blog....thanks for listening. My dad has sleep apnea and had surgery to fix it so I know how that can be.
Suzzzzzan
Summer solstice
Early dawn. Late sunset. Long day. Short night. For us in the northern hemisphere, the June solstice marks the longest day of the year.
It’s your signal to celebrate the first day of summer in this hemisphere. South of the equator, winter begins.
When is the solstice where I live?
The solstice happens at the same instant for all of us, everywhere on Earth. But our clocks say different times.
This solstice takes place on Friday, June 20, 2008 at 23:59 Universal Time. Some people will round that up – as my beloved 2008 Observers Handbook did – to 00:00 Universal Time on June 21. So you might see June 21 as the date of the 2008 solstice. Don’t be fooled! In fact, for us in the U.S., the date is June 20, and the 2008 solstice is the earliest solstice since 1896.
It’s your signal to celebrate the first day of summer in this hemisphere. South of the equator, winter begins.
When is the solstice where I live?
The solstice happens at the same instant for all of us, everywhere on Earth. But our clocks say different times.
This solstice takes place on Friday, June 20, 2008 at 23:59 Universal Time. Some people will round that up – as my beloved 2008 Observers Handbook did – to 00:00 Universal Time on June 21. So you might see June 21 as the date of the 2008 solstice. Don’t be fooled! In fact, for us in the U.S., the date is June 20, and the 2008 solstice is the earliest solstice since 1896.
Sleeping on the job
One-Third Of Workers Fall Asleep On The Job
Some Companies Offer Workers A Nap Room
(CBS4)
Lack of sleep resulting in exhaustion is one of the most serious health- related problems in the workplace. It has also been shown that sleep deprivation is a major cause of under- productivity, absenteeism and workplace accidents.
According to the National Sleep Foundation sleep deprivation and sleep disorders are estimated to cost Americans over $100-billion annually in lost productivity, medical expenses, sick leave, and property and environmental damage.
Dr. Alex Chediak, a sleep expert at Mt. Sinai Hospital in Miami Beach, attributes people sleeping on the job to people's heavy workload.
"Americans are generally sleep deprived. It's quite clear the trend is short sleep, longer workdays," added Dr. Chediak.
Accordingly, he said the average American sleeps about six hours a night; a generation ago, Americans were sleeping eight to nine hours. One possible solution might be a simple nap.
"The nap time is critical. Less than 30 minutes, certainly less than 20 minutes, is refreshing," said Dr. Chediak.
He suggests getting up at the same time every morning, along with going to bed at the same time.
At least eight hours of sleep is recommended, and if necessary, a short nap or walking around if sleepiness continues.
Some Companies Offer Workers A Nap Room
(CBS4)
Lack of sleep resulting in exhaustion is one of the most serious health- related problems in the workplace. It has also been shown that sleep deprivation is a major cause of under- productivity, absenteeism and workplace accidents.
According to the National Sleep Foundation sleep deprivation and sleep disorders are estimated to cost Americans over $100-billion annually in lost productivity, medical expenses, sick leave, and property and environmental damage.
Dr. Alex Chediak, a sleep expert at Mt. Sinai Hospital in Miami Beach, attributes people sleeping on the job to people's heavy workload.
"Americans are generally sleep deprived. It's quite clear the trend is short sleep, longer workdays," added Dr. Chediak.
Accordingly, he said the average American sleeps about six hours a night; a generation ago, Americans were sleeping eight to nine hours. One possible solution might be a simple nap.
"The nap time is critical. Less than 30 minutes, certainly less than 20 minutes, is refreshing," said Dr. Chediak.
He suggests getting up at the same time every morning, along with going to bed at the same time.
At least eight hours of sleep is recommended, and if necessary, a short nap or walking around if sleepiness continues.
A little sleep humor
Sleep Is Better Than Sex Because...
1. You don't feel guilty about doing it alone.
2. No one will start rumours about how much you sleep.
3. You won't complain in the morning about not getting any.
4. You don't have to pay for sleep.
5. You don't need to sleep after sleeping.
6. Sleep can last a good eight hours. (or even more)
7. You can sleep in church.
8. While sleeping, you can have sex with anyone you want.
9. Your teddy bear never complains.
And of course....
10. It's legal to sleep in any position whichever country you live in.
1. You don't feel guilty about doing it alone.
2. No one will start rumours about how much you sleep.
3. You won't complain in the morning about not getting any.
4. You don't have to pay for sleep.
5. You don't need to sleep after sleeping.
6. Sleep can last a good eight hours. (or even more)
7. You can sleep in church.
8. While sleeping, you can have sex with anyone you want.
9. Your teddy bear never complains.
And of course....
10. It's legal to sleep in any position whichever country you live in.
Got caught snoozing
25 Best Responses if Found Asleep at Your Desk
25. "Oh, Man! Come in at 6 in the morning and look what happens!"
24. "This is one of the seven habits of highly effective people!"
23. "This is in exchange for the six hours last night when I dreamed about work!"
22. "You don't discriminate against those with Latient Atrophy Zymosis Yeast syndrome, DO YOU?!?"
21. "Gee, I thought you (the boss) were gone for the day."
20. "They told me at the blood bank this might happen."
19. "Oh, Hi, I was trying to pick up my contact lens without my hands."
18. "This is just a 15 minute power-nap like they raved about in the last time management course you sent me to."
17. "Whew! Guess I left the top off the liquid paper"
16. "I was just meditating on the mission statement and envisioning a new paradigm!"
15. "This is one of the seven habits of highly effective people!"
14. "I was testing the keyboard for drool resistance"
13. "I'm doing the "Stress Level Elimination Exercise Plan" (SLEEP) I learned at the last mandatory seminar you made me attend."
12. "It worked well for Reagan, didn't it?"
11. "This is a highly specific Yoga position to relieve work-related stress."
10. "Just pacing myself for the all-nighter tonight!"
9. "I was working smarter-not harder."
8. "Auggh! Why did you interrupt me? I had almost figured out a solution to our biggest problem."
7. "I'm in the management training program."
6. "The coffee machine is broken...."
5. "Someone must've put decaf in the wrong pot."
4. "Boy, that cold medicine I took last night just won't wear off!"
3. "Ah, the unique and unpredictable circadian rhythms of the workaholic!"
2. "It's okay... I'm still billing the client."
And the #1 response if found asleep at your desk:
1. "...and I especially thank you for my excellent boss, Amen!"
25. "Oh, Man! Come in at 6 in the morning and look what happens!"
24. "This is one of the seven habits of highly effective people!"
23. "This is in exchange for the six hours last night when I dreamed about work!"
22. "You don't discriminate against those with Latient Atrophy Zymosis Yeast syndrome, DO YOU?!?"
21. "Gee, I thought you (the boss) were gone for the day."
20. "They told me at the blood bank this might happen."
19. "Oh, Hi, I was trying to pick up my contact lens without my hands."
18. "This is just a 15 minute power-nap like they raved about in the last time management course you sent me to."
17. "Whew! Guess I left the top off the liquid paper"
16. "I was just meditating on the mission statement and envisioning a new paradigm!"
15. "This is one of the seven habits of highly effective people!"
14. "I was testing the keyboard for drool resistance"
13. "I'm doing the "Stress Level Elimination Exercise Plan" (SLEEP) I learned at the last mandatory seminar you made me attend."
12. "It worked well for Reagan, didn't it?"
11. "This is a highly specific Yoga position to relieve work-related stress."
10. "Just pacing myself for the all-nighter tonight!"
9. "I was working smarter-not harder."
8. "Auggh! Why did you interrupt me? I had almost figured out a solution to our biggest problem."
7. "I'm in the management training program."
6. "The coffee machine is broken...."
5. "Someone must've put decaf in the wrong pot."
4. "Boy, that cold medicine I took last night just won't wear off!"
3. "Ah, the unique and unpredictable circadian rhythms of the workaholic!"
2. "It's okay... I'm still billing the client."
And the #1 response if found asleep at your desk:
1. "...and I especially thank you for my excellent boss, Amen!"
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Wrinkled lips
Water is the healthiest drink. This is vouched by health experts around the world. However, drinking water straight from a bottle might lead to cosmetic problems. D.C. dermatologist Dr. Marilyn Berzin says that smoker's lips or wrinkles around the lips, which is common among long term smokers, is a common complaint among women who tend to drink from a bottle instead of using a glass. He came to this conclusion after noticing that many women who had never smoked had visible smoker's lips.
Highlights of water bottles and smoker's lips
a. Drinking water straight from a bottle entails making a face or distorting the lips area which is similar to smoking a cigarette.
b. When this is done over a period of time, it causes permanent lines.
c. Drinking from water bottles with either sport or straw tops or nozzles for about two years can also cause smoker's lips.
d. Even people in the 30s exhibit these lines and wrinkles.
e. However, it can be avoided if one uses wide-mouthed bottles or cups as this allows the upper lip to stay relaxed while drinking.
Highlights of water bottles and smoker's lips
a. Drinking water straight from a bottle entails making a face or distorting the lips area which is similar to smoking a cigarette.
b. When this is done over a period of time, it causes permanent lines.
c. Drinking from water bottles with either sport or straw tops or nozzles for about two years can also cause smoker's lips.
d. Even people in the 30s exhibit these lines and wrinkles.
e. However, it can be avoided if one uses wide-mouthed bottles or cups as this allows the upper lip to stay relaxed while drinking.
Virtual makeover
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Skin cancer cure?
US doctors kill skin cancer with cloned T-cells
US doctors have for the first time successfully treated a skin cancer patient with cells cloned from his own immune system, a study released Wednesday showed.
The ground-breaking treatment for advanced melanoma, or skin cancer, led to a long remission for the patient and used his own cloned infection-fighting T-cells, said doctor Cassian Yee, the lead author of the study in the New England Journal of Medicine.
Yee and his associates from the Clinical Research Division at Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center in Seattle removed CD4+ T-cells, a type of white blood cell, from a 52-year-old man whose melanoma had spread to a groin lymph node and to one of his lungs.
The melanoma was already well advanced and in stage four.
The T-cells which specifically fight melanoma were modified and expanded in the laboratory and some five billion cells were then infused into the patient, who received no other kind of treatment.
Two months later no tumors were found during scans of the patient's organs. And he has been cancer free for two years, Yee said.
"We were surprised by the anti-tumor effect of these CD4 T cells and its duration of response," Yee said. "For this patient we were successful, but we would need to confirm the effectiveness of therapy in a larger study."
It was the first ever case to show that cloned cells from a patient's own immune system can successful combat skin cancer. If further tests confirm the efficiency of the method, it could be used in some 25 percent of patients with late-stage skin cancer, the study said.
Using a patient's own immune system to combat cancer, called immunotherapy, is a growing area of research that aims to develop less-toxic cancer treatments than standard chemotherapy and radiation.
Some 160,000 cases of melanoma are diagnosed around the world every year, particularly affecting white men living in very sunny regions.
Although it usually affects the skin, in rare cases it can also infect the eyes and intestines.
According to the World Health Organization, some 48,000 people die from melanoma every year.
US doctors have for the first time successfully treated a skin cancer patient with cells cloned from his own immune system, a study released Wednesday showed.
The ground-breaking treatment for advanced melanoma, or skin cancer, led to a long remission for the patient and used his own cloned infection-fighting T-cells, said doctor Cassian Yee, the lead author of the study in the New England Journal of Medicine.
Yee and his associates from the Clinical Research Division at Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center in Seattle removed CD4+ T-cells, a type of white blood cell, from a 52-year-old man whose melanoma had spread to a groin lymph node and to one of his lungs.
The melanoma was already well advanced and in stage four.
The T-cells which specifically fight melanoma were modified and expanded in the laboratory and some five billion cells were then infused into the patient, who received no other kind of treatment.
Two months later no tumors were found during scans of the patient's organs. And he has been cancer free for two years, Yee said.
"We were surprised by the anti-tumor effect of these CD4 T cells and its duration of response," Yee said. "For this patient we were successful, but we would need to confirm the effectiveness of therapy in a larger study."
It was the first ever case to show that cloned cells from a patient's own immune system can successful combat skin cancer. If further tests confirm the efficiency of the method, it could be used in some 25 percent of patients with late-stage skin cancer, the study said.
Using a patient's own immune system to combat cancer, called immunotherapy, is a growing area of research that aims to develop less-toxic cancer treatments than standard chemotherapy and radiation.
Some 160,000 cases of melanoma are diagnosed around the world every year, particularly affecting white men living in very sunny regions.
Although it usually affects the skin, in rare cases it can also infect the eyes and intestines.
According to the World Health Organization, some 48,000 people die from melanoma every year.
Love yourself
Tips For How To Love Yourself
(by C. Rainfield)
Learning to love yourself isn't easy -- especially if you're a survivor of childhood abuse or neglect. But there are things you can do to boost your self-love.
Ask for a list of things people like about you.
Sometimes it can be hard to find things we like or love about ourselves. So -- ask other people to tell you all the things they like about you. Ask a friend, a lover, a therapist. This isn't a replacement for your own love; it's a first step in learning to love yourself. You may need to hear the things other people like about you before you can value them in youself.
If hearing what people like about you is hard, ask your friends to write it down for you, or leave it on your voice mail, so you can read/listen to it over and over. Go back to it as many times as you can. Even if you don't believe that someone can like a particular thing about you, or you don't believe it exists, trust that your friend does see it and value it.
When you start to hear critical voices inside your head, go back to those things your friend said/wrote about you, and remember that you are loved.
Make a list of the things you like about yourself.
Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Be as honest as you can. Modesty doesn't help you here; neither do old critical messages. If you're having trouble finding things you value about yourself, think about the things you value and love in your friends, then see if those things exist inside you, too. Most often, they do.
Fill a special notebook with your list, or create a set of cards. Make the notebook as beautiful as you can -- make it something that makes you feel good when you look at it. Then open it up and look at it any time you're feeling down or critical about yourself, or any time anyone says anything that triggers your criticalness of yourself.
Look at this good-things-about-yourself book as frequently as you can. It may seem silly, but repetition really does make a difference. (Just think of the impact one critical phrase said by a parent over and over to a child can have. It really does have an effect! Now try to give that child inside you at least one truly loving phrase about yourself that s/he can hold on to.)
Make it part of your daily routine to praise something in yourself or think about something you like about yourself.
In this society, we're taught that praising ourselves is selfish and wrong. But praising ourselves for things that are good about ourselves only helps us. It is a healing thing to do, something that nourishes our self-worth. When we love ourselves, we're happier and more true to our own selves...and that happiness and ability to be free spreads to others.
So...try to think of something that you like about yourself, or something that you did today that made you or someone else feel good -- no matter how small it may seem. Give yourself the kind of warm praise that you would a friend.
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(by C. Rainfield)
Learning to love yourself isn't easy -- especially if you're a survivor of childhood abuse or neglect. But there are things you can do to boost your self-love.
Ask for a list of things people like about you.
Sometimes it can be hard to find things we like or love about ourselves. So -- ask other people to tell you all the things they like about you. Ask a friend, a lover, a therapist. This isn't a replacement for your own love; it's a first step in learning to love yourself. You may need to hear the things other people like about you before you can value them in youself.
If hearing what people like about you is hard, ask your friends to write it down for you, or leave it on your voice mail, so you can read/listen to it over and over. Go back to it as many times as you can. Even if you don't believe that someone can like a particular thing about you, or you don't believe it exists, trust that your friend does see it and value it.
When you start to hear critical voices inside your head, go back to those things your friend said/wrote about you, and remember that you are loved.
Make a list of the things you like about yourself.
Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Be as honest as you can. Modesty doesn't help you here; neither do old critical messages. If you're having trouble finding things you value about yourself, think about the things you value and love in your friends, then see if those things exist inside you, too. Most often, they do.
Fill a special notebook with your list, or create a set of cards. Make the notebook as beautiful as you can -- make it something that makes you feel good when you look at it. Then open it up and look at it any time you're feeling down or critical about yourself, or any time anyone says anything that triggers your criticalness of yourself.
Look at this good-things-about-yourself book as frequently as you can. It may seem silly, but repetition really does make a difference. (Just think of the impact one critical phrase said by a parent over and over to a child can have. It really does have an effect! Now try to give that child inside you at least one truly loving phrase about yourself that s/he can hold on to.)
Make it part of your daily routine to praise something in yourself or think about something you like about yourself.
In this society, we're taught that praising ourselves is selfish and wrong. But praising ourselves for things that are good about ourselves only helps us. It is a healing thing to do, something that nourishes our self-worth. When we love ourselves, we're happier and more true to our own selves...and that happiness and ability to be free spreads to others.
So...try to think of something that you like about yourself, or something that you did today that made you or someone else feel good -- no matter how small it may seem. Give yourself the kind of warm praise that you would a friend.
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Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Working moms refuge
How do you juggle work, kids a husband, house work and any time for yourself?
Here is a site that may help.
Here is a site that may help.
Working moms
What does it take to simplify your life?
*One "universal truth" of becoming a parent: Life gets more complex
*Writer experiments with techniques to simplify her life
*She finds saying "no" can be effective but can backfire
*A week of simplicity teaches her the importance of living in the moment
(By Elizabeth Soutter Schwarzer)
(Parenting.com)
If there's one universal truth in becoming a parent -- and there may be only one universal truth in becoming a parent -- it's that life instantly becomes more complex. And stays that way.
The constancy of this battle against chaos struck me recently on the drive to school. From my first moments awake I had been struggling: urging the kids to eat and get dressed, making breakfasts and lunches, packing backpacks. I had decided to save time by not dressing myself, but we were late anyway. We missed the car-pool dropoff and I had to conduct the Walk of Shame: taking my kids to their classrooms in my jammies.
Driving home, I could sense the clock ticking down to the time when I would be late to pick them up. It was time for drastic measures. What if I, for once, followed all that "simplify your life" advice we hear? I decided to do a little experiment and try five techniques that are supposed to make life saner:
Say "no"
This is the simplification tip we seem to hear most often. The premise is easy enough: You're in control of what you allow into your life, so don't allow anything that promises complications. Parenting.com: Getting over new mom guilt
It makes sense until your 5-year-old tells you she really wants you to volunteer in her classroom, and while you're there, the teacher tells you how much they need items for the bake sale, and while you're baking, the sitter you love tastes the brownies and you love her so much that you let her take a bunch home and decide to whip up another batch, and the next thing you know you're late again and the kitchen is a mess.
That's how it happens.
My problem, really, with saying no is that I don't want to disengage from life, just simplify it a little. So I wondered whether instead of saying no to big things, I could try saying no to littler ones and see if they added up to a real change.
• I said no to making an alternate breakfast when Mare decided she didn't want cereal.
• I offered Ren a choice of only two shirts, and didn't let her dig in her drawer for alternatives.
• I even said no to fixing myself a coffee to go.
Sure enough, we were in the car 10 minutes sooner.
The "no" thing backfired when Renny insisted on bringing her doll-baby into preschool. "No!" I said with smug confidence. She started shrieking. I handed her the doll.
Sometimes "yes" can be simpler. The key, I realize, is figuring out when to say what.
Ask for help
This is what you're supposed to do when you have kids, because you can't do it alone, it takes a village, all that. When it comes to the big things -- someone's in the hospital, or your pipes burst, and you need someone to watch the kids -- it's easy to ask for help because you don't have a choice.
But when it comes to the everyday simplify-your-life things, it's harder to ask someone to share the burden. I decided to try asking for help on the smaller things, starting with this project: asking three mom friends each to try one of the tips in their own lives. Karin and Tania agreed. Ellie said no.
"Oh, does your life feel simpler now?" I asked her.
"Simpler than Tania's and Karin's," she replied.
Whatever, El.
The exchange showed me how closely related asking for help and saying no can be. Were my other friends only saying yes to be polite? Would I owe them something later and feel like I couldn't say no because they had helped me?
At the same time, it was fun to be doing the simplicity project together, and it certainly made my life easier just to ask them how it went instead of doing it myself. So in some ways, asking for help makes life more complicated, but it also makes it more enjoyable. I do think if you are going to ask for help you have to be ready to give it. But what's so bad about that? My friends got to do a fun experiment with me, and owing them one isn't so bad. Parenting.com: How to handle annoying advice
Plan ahead
"The part of the day I am struggling with most right now is mornings," Karin said. (Tell me about it.) "So I decided to apply 'planning ahead' to that. And you know, I was really surprised. I understood on a basic level that if I made lunches the night before, then the mornings would be easier. But I didn't realize what a positive impact that would have on the rest of the day. Instead of starting off with a big buildup of stress, we just got out the door and then enjoyed a walk to the bus stop."
I didn't ask whether she went in her jammies.
Listening to Karin, it was clear that the goal isn't really more order; it's less stress. The issue isn't getting something done right, but avoiding the anxiety that comes from chaos that's not managed. So I'm inspired, and a little jealous, that her part of the experiment went so well. Parenting.com: Get organized now
Let yourself off the hook
Of all my friends, Tania's house is the neatest. She has, like, fruit bowls on the counter and stuff. I thought that this translated into a sense of peace and simplicity, so I was surprised to hear that Tania decided to let herself off the hook on her housekeeping.
"We decided to get a housecleaner once a week," she confessed. (Oh, please don't tell your husband it was because I made you help me.)
"Did it make life simpler?" I asked.
"I clean obsessively before she comes, and I clean after," she admitted. Okay, work in progress. But I did realize one thing: She's a lot harder on herself than any of her friends are on her. When it comes to my house, she always tells me how great it looks, and it's never as clean as hers. Maybe letting yourself off the hook means being as nice to yourself as you are to your friends. I'll keep trying that one. After all, I remind them they're great moms when their kids pull belly-screamer meltdowns in public, and I should remind myself, too. The next time I drag a screaming child out of the market, I'll try to be as encouraging to myself as my friends would be to me.
Do one thing at once
I don't know any mom who doesn't pride herself on her multitasking skills. We can talk on the phone, wipe a nose, and look up something online, answering questions about eating habits of birds as we go. But as I considered it, I wondered whether this might be an inherent part of our problem. In the first weeks with newborns, we learn to do so many things at once. Maybe we never unlearn it. Maybe sometimes we should.
"Are these withdrawal symptoms?" I thought as I stood in the kitchen chopping vegetables and twitching from a desire to have my laptop in front of me.
"This doesn't feel right," I muttered as I drove the kids to the market without a cell phone crammed against my ear.
"I can't concentrate!!" I thought as I forced myself to pay attention to the girls without picking up all the messes I saw around the toy room.
On the last day of my week of simplifying, I rolled out of the house, late as usual. I drove along with the ticker of self-annoyance going around my head. "Why can't I do this right? I should have planned ahead, or said no, or let myself off the hook, or whatever. But I should not be walking the halls of school in my jammies yet again."
Fergie came on the radio, singing "Girl can't help it." I turned it up and the girls started singing along. Suddenly it was a gorgeous day and I didn't mind everything so much. That was when it hit me: Driving to school, worrying about being late, trying to get there sooner, and berating myself for my mistakes was doing too much all at once. The only thing I really should have been doing in that moment was driving to school, singing a song in my jammies. Because that's where I was. Parenting.com: 21 ways to enjoy being a mom
"Do one thing at once" isn't just about not multitasking; it's also about paying attention. It isn't always possible to get help or say no or let ourselves off the hook -- life wouldn't happen if we did too much of that. But my week of simplicity taught me what it's all really about: learning to be in the moment and trying not to worry about the rest so much.
And life with kids being what it is, that may just be as simple as we can hope for.
*One "universal truth" of becoming a parent: Life gets more complex
*Writer experiments with techniques to simplify her life
*She finds saying "no" can be effective but can backfire
*A week of simplicity teaches her the importance of living in the moment
(By Elizabeth Soutter Schwarzer)
(Parenting.com)
If there's one universal truth in becoming a parent -- and there may be only one universal truth in becoming a parent -- it's that life instantly becomes more complex. And stays that way.
The constancy of this battle against chaos struck me recently on the drive to school. From my first moments awake I had been struggling: urging the kids to eat and get dressed, making breakfasts and lunches, packing backpacks. I had decided to save time by not dressing myself, but we were late anyway. We missed the car-pool dropoff and I had to conduct the Walk of Shame: taking my kids to their classrooms in my jammies.
Driving home, I could sense the clock ticking down to the time when I would be late to pick them up. It was time for drastic measures. What if I, for once, followed all that "simplify your life" advice we hear? I decided to do a little experiment and try five techniques that are supposed to make life saner:
Say "no"
This is the simplification tip we seem to hear most often. The premise is easy enough: You're in control of what you allow into your life, so don't allow anything that promises complications. Parenting.com: Getting over new mom guilt
It makes sense until your 5-year-old tells you she really wants you to volunteer in her classroom, and while you're there, the teacher tells you how much they need items for the bake sale, and while you're baking, the sitter you love tastes the brownies and you love her so much that you let her take a bunch home and decide to whip up another batch, and the next thing you know you're late again and the kitchen is a mess.
That's how it happens.
My problem, really, with saying no is that I don't want to disengage from life, just simplify it a little. So I wondered whether instead of saying no to big things, I could try saying no to littler ones and see if they added up to a real change.
• I said no to making an alternate breakfast when Mare decided she didn't want cereal.
• I offered Ren a choice of only two shirts, and didn't let her dig in her drawer for alternatives.
• I even said no to fixing myself a coffee to go.
Sure enough, we were in the car 10 minutes sooner.
The "no" thing backfired when Renny insisted on bringing her doll-baby into preschool. "No!" I said with smug confidence. She started shrieking. I handed her the doll.
Sometimes "yes" can be simpler. The key, I realize, is figuring out when to say what.
Ask for help
This is what you're supposed to do when you have kids, because you can't do it alone, it takes a village, all that. When it comes to the big things -- someone's in the hospital, or your pipes burst, and you need someone to watch the kids -- it's easy to ask for help because you don't have a choice.
But when it comes to the everyday simplify-your-life things, it's harder to ask someone to share the burden. I decided to try asking for help on the smaller things, starting with this project: asking three mom friends each to try one of the tips in their own lives. Karin and Tania agreed. Ellie said no.
"Oh, does your life feel simpler now?" I asked her.
"Simpler than Tania's and Karin's," she replied.
Whatever, El.
The exchange showed me how closely related asking for help and saying no can be. Were my other friends only saying yes to be polite? Would I owe them something later and feel like I couldn't say no because they had helped me?
At the same time, it was fun to be doing the simplicity project together, and it certainly made my life easier just to ask them how it went instead of doing it myself. So in some ways, asking for help makes life more complicated, but it also makes it more enjoyable. I do think if you are going to ask for help you have to be ready to give it. But what's so bad about that? My friends got to do a fun experiment with me, and owing them one isn't so bad. Parenting.com: How to handle annoying advice
Plan ahead
"The part of the day I am struggling with most right now is mornings," Karin said. (Tell me about it.) "So I decided to apply 'planning ahead' to that. And you know, I was really surprised. I understood on a basic level that if I made lunches the night before, then the mornings would be easier. But I didn't realize what a positive impact that would have on the rest of the day. Instead of starting off with a big buildup of stress, we just got out the door and then enjoyed a walk to the bus stop."
I didn't ask whether she went in her jammies.
Listening to Karin, it was clear that the goal isn't really more order; it's less stress. The issue isn't getting something done right, but avoiding the anxiety that comes from chaos that's not managed. So I'm inspired, and a little jealous, that her part of the experiment went so well. Parenting.com: Get organized now
Let yourself off the hook
Of all my friends, Tania's house is the neatest. She has, like, fruit bowls on the counter and stuff. I thought that this translated into a sense of peace and simplicity, so I was surprised to hear that Tania decided to let herself off the hook on her housekeeping.
"We decided to get a housecleaner once a week," she confessed. (Oh, please don't tell your husband it was because I made you help me.)
"Did it make life simpler?" I asked.
"I clean obsessively before she comes, and I clean after," she admitted. Okay, work in progress. But I did realize one thing: She's a lot harder on herself than any of her friends are on her. When it comes to my house, she always tells me how great it looks, and it's never as clean as hers. Maybe letting yourself off the hook means being as nice to yourself as you are to your friends. I'll keep trying that one. After all, I remind them they're great moms when their kids pull belly-screamer meltdowns in public, and I should remind myself, too. The next time I drag a screaming child out of the market, I'll try to be as encouraging to myself as my friends would be to me.
Do one thing at once
I don't know any mom who doesn't pride herself on her multitasking skills. We can talk on the phone, wipe a nose, and look up something online, answering questions about eating habits of birds as we go. But as I considered it, I wondered whether this might be an inherent part of our problem. In the first weeks with newborns, we learn to do so many things at once. Maybe we never unlearn it. Maybe sometimes we should.
"Are these withdrawal symptoms?" I thought as I stood in the kitchen chopping vegetables and twitching from a desire to have my laptop in front of me.
"This doesn't feel right," I muttered as I drove the kids to the market without a cell phone crammed against my ear.
"I can't concentrate!!" I thought as I forced myself to pay attention to the girls without picking up all the messes I saw around the toy room.
On the last day of my week of simplifying, I rolled out of the house, late as usual. I drove along with the ticker of self-annoyance going around my head. "Why can't I do this right? I should have planned ahead, or said no, or let myself off the hook, or whatever. But I should not be walking the halls of school in my jammies yet again."
Fergie came on the radio, singing "Girl can't help it." I turned it up and the girls started singing along. Suddenly it was a gorgeous day and I didn't mind everything so much. That was when it hit me: Driving to school, worrying about being late, trying to get there sooner, and berating myself for my mistakes was doing too much all at once. The only thing I really should have been doing in that moment was driving to school, singing a song in my jammies. Because that's where I was. Parenting.com: 21 ways to enjoy being a mom
"Do one thing at once" isn't just about not multitasking; it's also about paying attention. It isn't always possible to get help or say no or let ourselves off the hook -- life wouldn't happen if we did too much of that. But my week of simplicity taught me what it's all really about: learning to be in the moment and trying not to worry about the rest so much.
And life with kids being what it is, that may just be as simple as we can hope for.
Good coffee
Study Links Coffee To Improved Health
(CBS4)
Doctors: Drinking Coffee Can Prevent Heart Disease
They say an apple a day keeps the doctor away - and so may a cup of coffee. There's mounting evidence that drinking coffee in moderation is not only harmless for most people, but it may actually improve your health in some ways, CBS station WBZ-TV in Boston reports.
If you're someone who can't live without coffee, you might end up living longer because of it. For decades, doctors have debated whether coffee drinkers have been helping or hurting their health. Now a large new study is providing a new answer.
Researchers followed more than 125,000 people and found those who drank two to six cups a day had a slightly lower risk of dying. And there's evidence it helps the heart. According to Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum from Lennox Hill Hospital, among coffee drinkers "there was a lower incidence of heart disease, especially in women."
Coffee beans contain disease-fighting antioxidants similar to those found in many fruits and vegetables. Antioxidants prevent plaque formation in the arteries that leads to heart disease and heart attacks.
In this study, it didn't matter whether the coffee was regular or decaf. Earlier studies found coffee can reduce type-two diabetes and some kinds of cancer.
But experts warn that too much can have a reverse effect.
"We know caffeine can raise blood pressure, increase heart rate, actually cause palpitations and do all these other bad things for you," Dr. Steinbaum said.
So it sounds like, one or two cups a day is probably not going to hurt you, and may actually provide a health benefit.
(CBS4)
Doctors: Drinking Coffee Can Prevent Heart Disease
They say an apple a day keeps the doctor away - and so may a cup of coffee. There's mounting evidence that drinking coffee in moderation is not only harmless for most people, but it may actually improve your health in some ways, CBS station WBZ-TV in Boston reports.
If you're someone who can't live without coffee, you might end up living longer because of it. For decades, doctors have debated whether coffee drinkers have been helping or hurting their health. Now a large new study is providing a new answer.
Researchers followed more than 125,000 people and found those who drank two to six cups a day had a slightly lower risk of dying. And there's evidence it helps the heart. According to Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum from Lennox Hill Hospital, among coffee drinkers "there was a lower incidence of heart disease, especially in women."
Coffee beans contain disease-fighting antioxidants similar to those found in many fruits and vegetables. Antioxidants prevent plaque formation in the arteries that leads to heart disease and heart attacks.
In this study, it didn't matter whether the coffee was regular or decaf. Earlier studies found coffee can reduce type-two diabetes and some kinds of cancer.
But experts warn that too much can have a reverse effect.
"We know caffeine can raise blood pressure, increase heart rate, actually cause palpitations and do all these other bad things for you," Dr. Steinbaum said.
So it sounds like, one or two cups a day is probably not going to hurt you, and may actually provide a health benefit.
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Get a library card
Your Broward County Library offers something for everyone. Broward County Library, the ninth-largest library system in the United States, is your window to a world of learning, opportunity, education, and more. With over ten million visitors annually, BCL offers a wealth of cultural, educational and recreational options to the community, with 37 locations countywide.
Each month, Broward County Library offers a wide range of programs and events for all ages. Whether you're looking for free computer classes, educational events, children's happenings, or special-interest programs, your library has something for everyone.
Each month, Broward County Library offers a wide range of programs and events for all ages. Whether you're looking for free computer classes, educational events, children's happenings, or special-interest programs, your library has something for everyone.
Food for needy
When families fall into economic hardship, The Cooperative Feeding Program provides counseling and support to help them out of the throes of difficult times. Our diverse family center offers them hope, contact with community-wide services, and emotional support.
The staff of The Cooperative Feeding Program is involved in education and advocacy issues. Our focus is on quality of life for children, the ill, and the elderly. We work with the homeless and the families living at the edge of homelessness. Preventing homelessness is a primary concern of ours.
We are a small budget charity performing a multimillion dollar service for our community! We have an audited 8% administrative cost.
In the past several years we've distributed millions of meals to Broward County residents. We are staunch advocates for parity funding for those with disabilities, the elderly, and persons with mental illness.
The staff of The Cooperative Feeding Program is involved in education and advocacy issues. Our focus is on quality of life for children, the ill, and the elderly. We work with the homeless and the families living at the edge of homelessness. Preventing homelessness is a primary concern of ours.
We are a small budget charity performing a multimillion dollar service for our community! We have an audited 8% administrative cost.
In the past several years we've distributed millions of meals to Broward County residents. We are staunch advocates for parity funding for those with disabilities, the elderly, and persons with mental illness.
Dump the pump
On Thursday, June 19, join millions of commuters and leave your car at home and ride the bus or train to get to work, school or wherever life takes you. Send a strong message that you are tired of rising gas prices and want to save our planet.
By riding transit on June 19, you can be eligible to win $1,000 cash, tickets to Universal Studios Orlando, a Hawks Cay Resort getaway in the Florida Keys, Dunkin’ Donuts gift cards or other great prizes. Prize cards will be distributed at select bus terminals and train stations while supplies last.
Get the details here.
By riding transit on June 19, you can be eligible to win $1,000 cash, tickets to Universal Studios Orlando, a Hawks Cay Resort getaway in the Florida Keys, Dunkin’ Donuts gift cards or other great prizes. Prize cards will be distributed at select bus terminals and train stations while supplies last.
Get the details here.
Safe tomatoes
Want tomatoes on that? With all the talk about the possible salmonella dangers from raw tomatoes, the answer can have real health consequences.. The food and Drug Administration is urging you to avoid certain types of tomatoes unless they are grown in specific states or countries. Learn more on their website.
Monday, June 16, 2008
Need a new image
Why is your Image important?
Whether we like it or not, how you look is a large part of your identity.
Within the first few seconds of meeting, people form opinions about you based on your appearance and behavior.
A dynamic image will give you more self confidence and help others to have more confidence in you too!
The way you walk, the way you carry yourself, the way you look, your smile, grooming, and attitude toward others, are all taken into consideration.
By projecting the right visual and behavioral style, you can achieve a positive and lasting impression that will promote success in all that you do.
Maybe an image consultant is just what you need. Check out this site.
Whether we like it or not, how you look is a large part of your identity.
Within the first few seconds of meeting, people form opinions about you based on your appearance and behavior.
A dynamic image will give you more self confidence and help others to have more confidence in you too!
The way you walk, the way you carry yourself, the way you look, your smile, grooming, and attitude toward others, are all taken into consideration.
By projecting the right visual and behavioral style, you can achieve a positive and lasting impression that will promote success in all that you do.
Maybe an image consultant is just what you need. Check out this site.
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